Hi Andy,(posted 7377 days ago)Similar position to you but in reverse in that B&B are chasing my fiance and his ex and her husband, don't work, live on benefit and basically don't do much all day whereas my fiance has a good job and, until we found this site, they were harrassing him on a daily basis!
What we have done, and I think you are already on the right track, is to keep everything in my name and, even though getting married can change the law, we have made a point of having 2 separate bank accounts, one in joint names and one in my name. Luckily I get paid in the middle of the month and he at the end, the mortgage money and anything connected to the house comes out of my salary and gets paid into my account which then proves he has no claim over it.
We also followed the advice on this site. We wrote a letter last November saying that as we consistently receive the same letters and it is now approaching 12 years since the alleged debt came to light we would be grateful if they would stop contacting him. No doubt we'll have the usual letter in about 6 months time.
My own personal view, as above, is that they do go after the one they feel has more to offer regardless of sex.