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To whom may concern. I'm a member of a group of concer parents and parishoners. We have a situation at Holy Innocent School (elementry) were the Pastor of the Church has what he calls a chemestry problem with the school principal which is a Carmelite Sister. He ask the mother superior to please replace her. The problem that we have is that because of his actions, in which he never aproach the sister to discuss the so call problem he did not notify anybody of his doing. He is saying he is the extension of the Cardinal and so he can basically do what ever he wants, that it does not matter what we think that it is his decision and upper management being Bishop Sartoris and Cardinal Mahony. In which we as parent asked him for a response and up to this day he has not given us any reason. over 48 Catholic School have been close in the past couple of years. We need the presence of the Sisters in our Catholic School. If you can please give us Ideas in who we the parents and parishoner can do to keep this from happening to other schools. and for father to reinstate his decision if anything the one that should leave should be Him not the Sisters. The Sister are the Founder of the School. If you will like more information please feel free to email me we have a video tape in which father Tony Astudillo explain his reasons and also walk out of the meeting leaving 180 parent and parishoner in limbo.

-- Ana Pereyra (Anap@rfcu.org), May 21, 1999

Answers

Ana please acknowledge my e:mail sent this day

Jean B.

-- Jean Bouchard (jeanb@cwk.imag.netj), May 21, 1999.


This is NOT the place to be airing this kind of internal issue.

-- David Palm (djpalm64@yahoo.com), May 21, 1999.

WHY??

-- Jamey (jcreel@hcsmail.com), May 21, 1999.

David,

Surely we must be open to any and all things that are presented in this forum. Perhaps this person is reaching and simply asking. We are all one family and the strong care for the weak. Would you turn your back on a prostitute, drunk or drug user??

Peace and Well Being.

Jean B.

-- Jean Bouchard (jeanb@cwk.imag.net), May 21, 1999.


Family business is family business (by that I mean the Catholic family). IMO this doesn't belong on a public forum, especially a nation/worldwide forum with a highly diverse audience. Prudence.

-- David Palm (djpalm64@yahoo.com), May 22, 1999.


My hope as a devout Catholic is to be secure eniugh in myself to listen and learn from others. I believe we are all one family of man. We as Christians must not be above " them " and surely be humble enough to accept the bitter with the sweet

Jean B

-- Jean Bouchard (jeanb@cwk.imag,net), May 22, 1999.


Jean,

Very good!

Secrets that must be kept are like those skeletons in the closets. If they come out unknowlingly their more dangerous to misunderstandings from those of us on the outside truly looking for understanding. And, only add fuel to a blazing fire of indifference. "Secrets" always have a way of surfacing. We must choose either to accept truth or allow misconceptions, which are very hard to straighten out.

-- Jamey (jcreel@hcsmail.com), May 22, 1999.


No. It is inappropriate to air private grievances in a public place. The Scriptures are very clear on the proper procedure to take care of interpersonal problems: first go alone, then with two or three, then "take it to the Church." An Internet Web site just doesn't factor in there.

I don't even have a problem with somebody coming on here with a "hypothetical" situation asking for advice. But all the details are in this post for everybody to know exactly who is involved. That is gossip, folks. And this is not the place.

-- David Palm (djpalm64@yahoo.com), May 23, 1999.


Improper forum the web? WRONG - WRONG!! This now part of the community at large which includes us. As to one or two etc: we are the Church and we are Priestly people. this is our birthright given to us through the sacrament of Baptism.

Jean B.

-- Jean Bouchard (jeanb@cwk.iamg.net), May 23, 1999.


I have been involved in the same or nearly the same situations. I cannot comment on your specific situation but some general guidelines. Those who are concerned anout this need to talk with one another. Form a group that can represent all involved. Sit down and write down your concerns. Have several people from the group meet with the pastor and or the parish school board. If you are not satisfied with this send a letter to the Chancellor and education vicar of the diocese. Include all persons involved nothing sneeky, and do it with love and true concern for the children. You might meet once a week to pray for the school and even ask that prayer intentions for the situation be offered at the daily Mass.

-- Br. Rich S.F.O. (repsfo@prodigy.net), May 23, 1999.


Br Rich,

As member of an order you would live in different world then the priest who is under the " commands " of his bishop. It in known among the laity many millions of dollars are spent without proper accounting. Many responsible memeber of the community have become very very tired of this.

When in discernment for priesthool ( three years ) I came across the midset of most priest the laity do not listen to them as lambs. True for we are not fodder for many priests to milk for their own needs.

Many priests have severe emotional problems and would be dysfunctional outside their settings. Bishops protect these men as part of the system. Please do not treat us a simple minded children. Those days are long past.

Jean B.

-- Jean Bouchard (jeanb@cwk.imag.net), May 23, 1999.


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