This website has attracted a considerable amount of attention from the media (Oprah, 20/20, Sci American, The Wall Street Journal, etc. etc.), and one of the most common questions I'm asked is if I can provide them with people they can interview. So, if you wouldn't mind being contacted by the media, please reply to this, and leave an e-mail address and a general physical location (like New York City) so that you can be contacted by them. You might also want to include a few details, such as how long your relationship lasted, if you were ever hospitalized, etc.. Please do not put up this information if you think you'll be endangering yourself. You can email me privately instead.

-- Anonymous, June 02, 1999

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To Whom It May Concern:

I have been in this Abusive (mental/emotional) relationship for 8 years now. He has a daughter who is 13 now, she was 6 when we first got together. He is very over protective of her and has made my life a living hell because of her. She is also capable of dishing out abuse and controls her father to the extent he finds it extreemly hard to control her. They are both control freaks! Its my own fault for staying in the relationship when he treats me very badly. Why do I stay? I ask myself that question every day, I dont know why! I dont know if my living in Australia will prevent the Media contacting me, I hope not as I have a huge storey to tell about my reationship and what I went through to get them to Australia so we could be a happy family! only to end up alone and unhappy with 8 years of my life gone. There is a big age difference he's 37 and I'm 54 but I dont think that is the main factor because he feeds off my experience. I didn't realise it was an abusive relationship until I found this section on the Internet. Its ironic how I can relate to most everything I read.

-- Anonymous, June 07, 1999

I am interested in exposing the biase in the system about this. The Judge in my divorce said that I provoked the Violence against me. That is every batter's defense but it is always rejected and rightfully so when it is a male batterer. This same judge did give me custody though.

-- Anonymous, November 11, 1999

Hi, I'm Kathy Williams. Nice to meet everyone. I'm a freelance writer and the author of "I Survived", (due out Feb.2000). Also an advocate for Domestic Violence. I own and operate a website dedicated to assisting abused women, along with other areas of the site that pertains to women in general, family issues, kids, parenting, writers, and teachers. I live in Georgia.

My personal story of abuse deals with so many different aspects, which no one should have to endure. But I'm happy to say, in the end, I was a Surivor. I deal with women on a daily basics between my website and the phone, and looking to expand that with speaking engagements, interviews, and etc. I have made it my mission to help others that are in this situation, or have gone through abuse.

I would just like to say, I think this is a terrific site you have. I would love to help you out with all of this, if interested. Like I said, this is a cause that's near and dear to my heart, and I want people to know, there is hope and help out there.

Hope to talk to you soon.

Kathy

-- Anonymous, January 26, 2000

Hi. I am more than willing to share my story of domestic violence and getting out. I was physically,mentally, and emotionally abused for 3 1/2 years, as was my son. It was a very violent relationship. I've been out of the relationship for 6 years now. Many times I should have gone to the doctors, but he would not let me.

He served 13 months in prison for abusing my son and I.

My son had to go to a residental home for 5 months to be able to heal.

Him and I are much better now, but the emotioal scars linger to this day.

Feel free to have the media contact me. Thanks, Laura

-- Anonymous, February 03, 2000

Hi:

I feel I'm ready to speak openly about what has happened to me as a victim of violence by by wife. My story is John #1 on this site and I'm willing to talk to the media and will consider going public if the situation warrants it. John #1

-- Anonymous, May 13, 2000

I have been abused by my X for 30 years.I have been throw HELL for stepping up and telling the truth.By the so called justics system. I would love to tell my story.

-- Anonymous, May 18, 2000

Jade I would like to be contacted in the future. I live in Alabama. I am orignially from South Carolina. I was in the relationship for nine and half years. I was thrown out of the relationships quite a few times and then asked back. Why did I go back. Because I thought I could do no better. That was what I was use to from my past.

Elden Phillip Owens namaste5@bellsouth.net Male victim/Survivor

-- Anonymous, May 18, 2000

I would be willing to be interviewed. I have a very long and not happy story. I am working on getting out and making a better place for myself and my children. I am also looking forward to being me again. I really want my children to know the real me.

-- Anonymous, May 24, 2000

Pardon me, but Ihave been abused by women and by my ex. And ya know what I found? Because I'm a man I have no rights. And this media thing, DON'T FALL FOR IT. Women WILL do whatever they can to defame men that speak out. So in light of this, what are you to do when abused?

Simple- GET THE HELL OUT. No relationship is worth keeping if you're being abused. Not male and not female. And if she hits you, live with it. The pigs'll just take her side and you'll go to jail.

-- Anonymous, March 05, 2002