What kinds of things are unforgivable? Do you do anything about your grudges, or just feel them inside your mind? When is it time to let go and move on?

-- ann monroe (monroe@chorus.net), March 16, 2000

Answers

I think that no one thing in and of itself is unforgivable--people are fallible, and it's hard for me to hold any one thing against a person. Give me a pile of wrongs, let it fester, and then...well...

I have been making a conscious effort to let go of grudges and hurts in the past few years though. By nature I tend to hold on to things for ages and let them twist inside of me--one day I just realized that it has too negative an effect on me, in clinging to the pain associated with the past and this person. It's made it easier for me to forgive people for the little things, and easier to decide when a person is (cruel as it sounds) not someone I need in my life.

-- Kristen (mokie@twoshades.com), March 19, 2000.

Do I hold grudges?

Occasionally.

But then, holding a grudge really has everything to do with the person holding it, and very little if anything to do with the person who is the object of the grudge.

-- Ms. Enigmatic (enigma@chrus.net), May 11, 2000.

Do I hold grudges?

Occasionally.

But then, holding a grudge really has everything to do with the person holding it, and very little if anything to do with the person who is the object of the grudge.

It's always time to let go of a grudge --- it isn't healthy for anyone.

-- Ms. Enigmatic (enigma@chrus.net), May 11, 2000.