Mother dying of cancer

greenspun.com : LUSENET : ER Discussions : One Thread

So much has been written about Carol and Doug, but I had to comment on the other touching story of the evening: the woman dying of cancer. I thought it was perfect when the husband stated that he'd never love another woman like he moved his wife. I got chocked up and couldn't stop crying--thinking about my own life with my husband and how I'd feel if I ever lost him. Sometimes ER is so realistic that I forget it's television. The daughters getting to say a final goodbye was so touching. Carol did the right thing in resuscitating her just long enough to say goodbye. She was going to die anyway. Thankfully she was given those last few moments to let her children say goodbye to her.

-- Carin Haseltine (cdenisehaze@usa.net), May 12, 2000

Answers

Carin, this storyline was so touching to me as well. When the husband talked about how he wished he had spent more time with his wife instead of traveling all the time -- that really touched me. I was watching with my husband and he reached over and grabbed my hand and HE was crying! It was so sad!

-- amanda (amanda.rehm@home.com), May 13, 2000.

Those were some really touching scenes and I thought at first that the writers were laying it on a little thick for Carol (Soulmates...family with two girls losing one parent), but then Carol needed a little push!

Anyway, I wondered how many people really got the point of those scenes. All of us who are married will likely be part of a scene like that someday. Do we live our lives with purpose or do we just take our families for granted? I love it when TV actually has something positive to say! We should all go spend time with our families and examine our lives to find out what truly matters to us!

-- cherry (hoffner@mail.icongrp.com), May 13, 2000.


Another thing that was really touching to me, was that Carol gave these girls something she never had -- a chance to say goodbye to a dying parent. She did the right thing, resuscitating the woman, because her daughters got a chance to spend one last moment with their mother. We know that Carol did not get to see her father, worries if he was asking about her, etc. The writers amaze me. They have made the present so touching in part from the past. I still think, "Wow," when I think about "Such Sweet Sorrow."

-- Arianne (CarolRossSusanGreene@yahoo.com), May 13, 2000.

I think Carol definately did the right thing. I thought that when Kerry yelled at her it was dumb. She did almost the same thing a few episodes ago when she put in the central line when Ramono (sp) told her not to. I don't think she had any right to yella t her.

-- Jenna (Iluvgymnastics10@hotmail.com), May 13, 2000.

jenna, those are two very different situations.

-- ALexis Springer (lexicat1@webtv.net), May 18, 2000.


All this story reminds me so much about my personnal experience. My father passed away 2 years ago because of a cancer. I was 18 at that time. My 2 brothers and I went to visit him knowing that it would be the last time we would see him alive. It was the worst moment of my life. But to have the opportunity to say goodbye helps a lot to deal with his death.

-- Delphine Kerzerho (delphine@cancerboard.ab.ca), May 18, 2000.

Moderation questions? read the FAQ