What deficits in your psyche does your significant other compensate for? Is he calm to your craziness? Is she a financial wizard while you need a calculator to multiply single digits?

-- Sara Astruc (saraastruc@aol.com), June 06, 2000

Answers

She's a grown-up...

-- Rob Rummel-Hudson (rhudson@digitalism.com), June 06, 2000.

Actually he has the opposite effect on me -- he knows how to play and goof off. Left to my own devices I'm way too much work and not enough play. He's way too much play and not enough work.

Together we have a balance.

Like Rob said, he's teaching me to be a kid and I'm teaching him to be a grown-up.

-- Colleen (triggirl@yahoo.com), June 06, 2000.

She brings order to the chaos....

-- jon meyers (champ67@starpower.net), June 06, 2000.

Oh my god do NOT let him get away.

There is something so appealing about a man who volunteers to fix things.

At the moment I am single and evaluating prospects, so I can't really answer this question.

Just wanted to say hi.

-- Sarah (scampbell@frankfurtbalkind.com), June 06, 2000.

He is my cynic, my Mental Crossing Guard. (Hey there! Whoa! Are you sure you want to leap into that situation little girl?). He puts smudges on the lenses of my rose coloured glasses.

Truth be told, there are some days when I'd rather be an UNbalanced happy person...

Pisces rule! :)

~M~

-- Meg Stone (Meg_1837@yahoo.com), June 06, 2000.

He can do financial stuff that totally confuses me.

He's more social in some ways than I am - better at keeping in touch with people and instigating get togethers.

-- Lizzie (crow@well.com), June 06, 2000.

he's far less serious than i am. infintely frustrating at some points, but he doesn't let me take myself too seriously, which i am in great danger of most of the time. when i'm getting overwrought about stupid things, he's giving me beers and tickling me. it's awful nice.

and going the other way, i can always fix his computer when he needs me to.

-- aggie (donkara@carleton.edu), June 06, 2000.

What significant other?

-- Rob Furr (rsfurr@curie.uncg.edu), June 06, 2000.

I'm a workaholic - I went years without taking vacation time before I met him ... but he's shown me how to have fun away (far away) from work. :)

-- Alla (alla@happypuppy.com), June 06, 2000.

(laughing butt off)

He is calm, where I am nuts. He says everything is going to be "just fine," even with a total lack of evidence that this will be so, and then *voila!* -- everything usually *is* fine. He is the "action-movie guy," who thrives on stories of conflict. I am the girly-girl, who just wants all movies to end happily and have no conflict bigger than whether to go to Bendel's or Bergdof's.

He's the 80's metal dude, and I'm the 80's new wave chick, and thank the heavens we met in the 90's, 'cause we would have *hated* each other ten years ago.

Nuff said? :)

-- roe (metrocake@yahoo.com), June 06, 2000.

Katrina knows everything and I know the rest.

-- Jim Valvis (jvalvis@hotmail.com), June 07, 2000.

She does all the paperwork. Loans, mortgages, taxes, daycare, insurance, summer camp, doctors' appointments, bills. I just drive. And do the dishes. and cook. and fix the computer.

-- Colin (ethilrist@prodigy.net), June 07, 2000.

I'm messy. He cleans up after me. I'm more of the "grab food on the way home" type. He cooks - extremely well. He's also very good at calming me down when I start to slip into Drama Queen mode. I think I got very, very lucky . . .

-- Chyna Brackeen (chyna@attackmonkey.com), June 07, 2000.

Pete's a morning person. I'm decidedly NOT. Weekday mornings are like that commercial, with one person in front moving at snail speed, and someone running around in the back on fast forward. Pete's the one on 78 RPM while I'm dragging my ass out of bed, dragging my ass out of the shower, dragging my ass to the breakfast table...meanwhile, he's made coffee (HALLELUJAH!), fed the cats, put together lunch, and probably saved the universe while I hit the snooze.

I'd starve at noon without him.

-- The Last Girl Scout (deniseb@wwnet.net), June 07, 2000.

I have no deficits in my psyche.

-- William R. Dickson (wrd@awenet.com), June 07, 2000.

sara-a removes the cannon from bil's back pocket...

-- Sara Astruc (saraastruc@aol.com), June 07, 2000.

He's the rational one of outfit. He's the one that says, "well, bethany, it would better if you tried not to do everything at once." preserver of sanity. that sort of thing.

-- Bethany Rusen (hejira@u-town.com), June 07, 2000.

A tendency to shade whatever I see. I could cheer other people, I just didn't get it myself. I saw the world through soot colored glasses. A grim, brutal and humorless place. Endless toil rewarded by pointless accomplishments. She stopped me in my tracks to say "So the hell what if it is? Live and be happy." Then she taught me how. More than anyone else ever did for me.

-- Alex of Tashkent Past (huemera@att.net), June 09, 2000.

Roger is pretty much the beta male: gentle, nuturing, playful. I'm funny but intense, and definitely raw around the edges. We juggle our extensive collection of rubber duckies together, usually at his initiation when I'm suddenly humorless and stressed. He reminds me that while I am a perfectionist, perfection is all around us. (GAG!!! Ow, that hurt... I believe I was possessed by the Spirit of Saccharine..it happens to the best of us.) Roger wants the babies, he's the one who really pushed for us to get married.

The downside of all this is the fact that one of my friends is in love with him. And a friend of a friend actually tried to seduce him recently. He's worth it, but I'd hate to have to throw down with all of the girlies who chase him.

-- blanche blank (mireillie@yahoo.com), June 09, 2000.

What can I say...she is my other half. She calms me down when I have an episode over a missing watch, I calm her down when our dog has chewed up the software for her website. She reminds me of the big picture when I get caught up in details. She's outspoken where I am quiet, she's adventureous where I'm timid. In reality, I guess she compensates for all my deficits, whether they be emotional or physical. Many a morning she has had to find my glasses for me, before I step on them!! Ha ha!

-- Alicia T (darthpeanut@home.com), June 09, 2000.

he is my zenmaster.

i fret over the details for hours. he looks at the big picture for 10 seconds, makes one tiny adjustment, and fixes everything.

-- ellen (ellen@fruhead.com), June 13, 2000.

Heather has and does feed me, nurse me and so many other things I can't possible do as a clumsy man. To top it all, she is the oil on the stormy waters of my temperamental personality. Damfino what the heck she sees in me.

-- Denver doug (ionoi@webtv.net), June 16, 2000.

My significant other is only 6 months old... :) Her mother is my exact opposite. That covers it: perfect balance (most of the time).

-- Bob van Pelt (bob@lackadays.com), June 22, 2000.

I am his mean streak.

-- eMiscreant (emiscreant@yahoo.com), June 26, 2000.

We are opposites. I am a depressive, attention deficite disordered, creative, confused silly, and he is a super responsible, check book balancing, dish-washing, middle of the ground he-man.

-- Presha Sullivan (pas4938@ksu.edu), June 28, 2000.

Sometimes Amy will flare her nostrils to see if I notice. Most times, she will dance a jig at the gym, until I laugh and restrain her. Amy reminds me to not take fools so seriously. That alone has kept me out of jail.

-- scott (scott_a_liles@yahoo.com), July 08, 2000.

He's the straight man to my comedienne. He lets me be the center of attention, always stepping back to let me shine. He's unassuming next to my "look at meeeeeeee" personality. He's very calming and centered and has taught me more about how to find the real me on the inside. He completes me.

-- Kerri (eslove@att.net), August 03, 2000.

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