Your take on weddings...?

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Married? Tell me about your wedding/s - the good, the bad, the scary.

Engaged? What are you planning?

Not married/never married/never marrying again? What do you think of weddings? How would you do one personally?

-- sammy (sammy@katgyrl.com), July 10, 2000

Answers

Guess I'll be the first ...

The idea of a big expensive wedding has always made me feel like a deer in the headlights. Horrifies me, actually. Also we did things a little backwards, I guess, because planning such a grand event with a small baby just seemed like a big no-no... In the end we drove over to the Registrar-Recorder's office and had it all over and done with in fifteen minutes. My six-month-old daughter was the only other person in attendance.

In retrospect, the only thing I regret about doing it the way we did was the presents. Seems to me the reason people throw this big party is for presents -- and we didn't get any.I suppose that sounds selfish, but it's the truth -- it's the only reason I can think of for wanting to do it differently from the way we did it.

Best of luck Sammy, and as you said, it's YOUR day so do it the way YOU want to.

- Sarah

-- Sarah (sarahparah@yahoo.com), July 10, 2000.


Ever since I was a little girl, I dreamed of the big traditional beautiful wedding. When it came my day to get married, I still held on to that dream, but with practical (ie monetary) compromises in mind.

I wanted it to be traditional because I always loved the beauty of traditional wedding. I was even "given away" by my parents because I wanted them to share in the ceremony.

In the end, I don't think it was a waste of time or money. There are a few things I would do differently, and it was really stressful to plan the event. But after all is said and done, it was a beautiful wedding that I'll always remember. And I don't regret a single thing.

I think that everyone's idea of the perfect wedding (or non-wedding) differs. I've been to small and casual affairs that were just lovely. And I've been to big fancy ones where you just felt the heart was missing.

The important thing is to do what makes you happy. If that means wearing a white dress, or PJs then do it!

Speaking from personal experience, the important thing is to do what makes you happy. If that means wearing a white dress, or PJs (with a tiara sounds cool ;) ) then do it! Just make is special for you, your future hubby, and those close to you.

Theressa

BTW, if I could get married again... I'd do it in a heartbeat.

-- Theressa (tlauw@overcaffeinated.com), July 11, 2000.


Our wedding is what we are calling the dreaded event. Our parents want the tradition big wedding and all we want is the officiant to say, "You're married" and be done with it.

-- Holly (hollysbears@erols.com), July 13, 2000.

Vegas,baby...get married in vegas.

-- Kristin Thomas (kristin@sperare.com), July 21, 2000.

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