Is there any one event in your life that has made you stronger?

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I wrote a journal entry for a collaboration project about losing a truth and then finding it again. I thought long and hard about what one truth I had lost and then found. It was hard to write about, but I managed to get it all out. I was wondering : Is there any one event in your life that sticks out in your mind that resulted in making you a stronger person? If so, please feel free to share.

-- Lee M (lela@ficom.net), July 26, 2000

Answers

I can understand exactly where you are coming from Katie. It seems divorce does a great deal to strengthen people. I don't think anyone really knows exactly how much until they live through it. We are survivors. And stronger for it, no doubt.

-- Lee M (lela@ficom.net), July 26, 2000.


My divorce. It was hell on earth, emotionally. No, we didn't fight over material things or anything like that.. but my ego was totally deflated when he left me for someone barely out of her teens that he met on the internet.

I'm mostly over it. (It's been almost 5 years) Although I still get pissed when I think about it (which isn't very often anymore, thank God) I am a much happier person now. I do wish it never happened... but you can't go back in the past and change everything.

And I am indeed a much stronger person now. I know my heart will survive no matter what.

-- Katie (missmermaid@hotmail.com), July 26, 2000.


Hi Lee!

Well I thought I would share what has made me stronger.......That would be becoming pregnant with my 7 year old at the age of 17. It made me stronger because I had to take care of someone else other than myself when all I wanted was to be a kid again.I became a wife ,a mother, and out on my own at the age of 18 all in about a months time. I didn't know how to wash clothes or cook to save my life but I learned with the help of others. I screwed up alot with my first child but did learn from those mistakes and don't regret a single moment. Really I think becoming a mother at any age you have to be stronger:O)

-- Leslie (Sillybug110@aol.com), July 27, 2000.


Finally being confronted with the reality that my wife and I were under severe financial credit card debt (just over $38,000) and deciding to do something about it. Counseling and a 4-5 year plan to get out of debt put severe pressure on what we could and could not buy. But I must say it has changed our viewpoint about credit cards and also about how self-centered we became and how lustful we were for instant gratification. It's not over yet (another 14 months), but we can see the light at the end of the tunnel. We are both glad we had to confront our situation, even though it meant some hardships on our part.

-- Mark G (author@orangeorgasms.com), July 27, 2000.

I lost hope. It's not my "one truth", but you try living without hope for any length of time and see what havoc it wreaks. A failed marriage, infertility problems, job stress, loneliness, and caring for a family member all at the same time pushed me into a nervous breakdown. I lost faith in the world, in happiness, and in myself. Several times I wanted to kill myself, but I didn't have the guts. I spent over a year in therapy, I moved away from the hometown I loved, I started over again and enrolled in school. It was hell, and for a long time I had no hope of ever being ME again. I just graduated with my degree, and after proving to myself and my family that I can finish what I start, I'm now working and paying my own bills. I can smile and laugh again, I can think about the future in terms of good things to come, and I can wake up in the morning and be glad I'm still here. I have hope again.

-- Becca (ladyjane4u@aol.com), July 28, 2000.


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