Were you ever stood up?

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Have you ever stood anybody up? Were you ever stood up? And I mean not like he didn't call you when he said he would - I mean like he didn't SHOW UP when he said he would and left you sitting in your room, all dressed up and ready to roll.

If you did the standing up, what the fuck happened, dude? Were you just being a dick, or did you have valid reasons?

Speak to me, baby.

-- Emily (mildew@dork.com), December 15, 2000


Yep, been stood up for lunch before. And it sucks...in the work environment you try and meet friends for lunch to stay in touch...the key word there is 'meet'. You usually pick a place and a time to meet there. One friend, and I now use the term totally sarcastically, would every once in a while, but more often than not, just not show up. Then when I would get back to the office there would be a phone mail message (timestamped after I would have had to leave) saying how she forgot or something else came up. After a few of these episodes I just blew her off for lunches...she was adding no value to my life. You have to be able to count on what people say. And you want to feel that you at least register on the import-o-meter, right? And standing you up with out any response says that you don't.

-- John (jbuyer@hotmail.com), December 15, 2000.

I was planning on saying that I had never stood anyone up... that is, I may have had to break dates but I always called to explain, never left anyone hanging... but I have just recalled that one time, many years ago, I failed to show up to meet my girlfriend one afternoon as we had planned because the night before I went drinking with some friends and we were up all night long, drinking and smoking various substances (including tobacco) and drinking more, I mean party until 'way past sunrise, so I was totally unconscious when I should have been picking her up... She was thoroughly pissed but forgave me that evening when we did get together once she saw how painfully hungover I was (oh, I mean in a world of hurt!), she felt it was sufficient payback. [However, I don't what Mike's excuse can be... especially since he has a cell phone. Probably you should ditch the jerk unless he grovels well.]

-- Jim (jimsjournal@yahoo.com), December 16, 2000.

Once, in high school. By my boyfriend. He also cheated on me that night. I don't want to talk about it.

I also stood someone up once. That was bad, too. It was in college, and I can't really remember why I did it... but the bad part was, this was before I realized you could just tell the ugly truth to people and it'd be better than a shitty lie. I told the shitty lie, something about an ambulance or something, he called me out on it, and I looked much worse than if I'd told him I simply blew him off.

Man, I kinda feel like an assface now. At least I'm honest now! Really!

-- Jamie (jamiestar@diaryland.com), December 21, 2000.

See, Jamie, you learned from your mistakes. I don't know that this guy will. I heard from him, by the by, and he was working. That's his excuse. Just working. Fell asleep at like 11pm and woke up the next morning, face down on his laptop. Too embarrassed to contact me ever since.

*sigh* I will never understand boys.

-- Emily (em@emilyweise.com), December 21, 2000.

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