How can I help my abused friend recover?

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My current girlfriend was in a verbally abusive relationship a few years back with a guy who I consider my friend. She is still recovering from the relatoinship, and I would like to know if there is anything at all I can do to help her recover, and if there is any way I may be able to approach this other guy, so that he doesn't do something like it again.

-- Anonymous, January 12, 2001

Answers

i'm far from being over this type of experience also but i know what i needed and still need. when one is condemned for everything, they have been mind-controled to believe they are no good and can't do anything right. she needs to be uplifted and needs to get back to realize that she is not what he says she is and begin to search the talents god gave her and use them for a happy fulfilling life. your other friend...has a definite problem that only he can solve due to only him knowing what's really bothering him. usually these things are deep rooted. has he had a bad experience before this girlfriend or a sister who has gone through the same thing with him or a dad who has been abusive? once a person creates this habit, which i think in the world today has become the norm, he has to take cautious measures to correct it and learn how to speak right words to another individual. i have never seen so much of people destroying others for absolutely no reason or a reason they think is a good one. i wish you the best... from little ol' me from new jersey. sadie - toprealtor4u2@cs.com or hotmail.com

-- Anonymous, June 02, 2001

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