what should you do if your being abused? should you tell the poliece?? please answer iu need your help!!!!! Serena

-- Anonymous, March 16, 2001

Answers

let me first tell you, I know how you feel. calling the police is something you need to decide on your own. if you want to talk, please email me and we can talk. victoria_yousef@hotmail.com

-- Anonymous, April 12, 2001

first things first, dont stay anywhere you may be hurt or injurged. get out. get help from another source first if you can. talk to friends , family , support groups, see a counselor. calling the police will deffinitly make things worse. police cant protect you forever. once the abuser gets out of jail, and he will one day, then what? Maybe you can get him to get help. but if he has an anger problem now think what will happen if he knew you called the police on him. theses situations are never easy, dealing with loved ones. just remember that for each action theres a reaction. dont put your self in a position for more abuse because of what you do. any form of abuse is unexceptable but there just might be much better options available to you then the police and courts system

-- Anonymous, April 27, 2001

Of course you must tell the police. The more instances of abuse they have reported, the easier it will be for you to get a restraining order or other help should the need arise.

This also sends the message to your abuser that you will not put up with the abuse. This person needs some help--but the first thing to do is to stay away from that person.

You cannot let yourself be abused. What does this say for you? You have got to know what you're worth and you are worth more than this.

Having the police and authorities on your side is never a bad thing.

Call.

The simple fact is that you are probably afraid to tell the police because you don't want to get hurt again. I understand this. However, the horrible fact is that you must get help on your side.

The police often don't seem like much help but they will be in the long run. Also, your abuser should be arrested. He has to get the message any way he can that this behavior is unacceptable.

As for court proceedings---they oftentimes recommend anger management courses.

You don't really have a choice.

Get out -- tell the police -- and live the life you are entitled to -- abuse free.

-- Anonymous, April 09, 2002

You should leave immediately and never have contact with that person again. Yes, it's that simple.

-- Anonymous, April 13, 2002