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I WAS MARRIED FOR 7YRS. TO A VERY ABUSIVE MAN. I FINALLY GOT THE COURAGE TO LEAVE HIM AND HE STALKED ME FOR AT LEAST A YEAR AFTER THAT. WE ARE NOW DIVORCED, AND I HAVE MARRIED WHAT I THOUGHT WAS THE MAN OF MY DREAMS. HE IS TEN TIMES WORSE. HE IS FROM IRAQ, AND WHEN WE MEET, HE HELPED ME GET OVER MY FEARS AND MADE ME FEEL SAFE, NOW I AM A PRISONER IN MY OWN HOME. I GO TO WORK COME HOME AND THAT'S IT. IF HE THINKS I AM "DISRESPECTING" HIM HE BEATS ME. PLEASE DOES ANY ONE KNOW WHAT I CAN DO. LEAVING HIM IS NOT AN OPTION.

-- Anonymous, April 03, 2001

Answers

If you're looking for people to talk with about your experience, consider the safe-support list. Directions for joining are at http:// www/safe4all.org

-- Anonymous, April 04, 2001

How bout talking to the local Police Dept?

I did and it cost him 6 months in the workhouse.

-- Anonymous, April 13, 2001


You should consult a good attorney. Mine happened to also own a detective/protection agency and was able to provide protection too. Do you have children? Don't if at all possible. You may want to seriously consider moving a long way away and filing for divorce. When my abuser filed I moved 500 miles away and unless he is a psycho from "sleeping with the enemy" he won't bother you. I will give him the opportunity to say "she ran off" and you won't see him at the grocery store. I was able to come back 3 years later. Good luck.

-- Anonymous, July 02, 2001

I surpose im not a medical scientsit on this one, so the least i can do is to tell you what i would personally do. If i were in your position, i would seroiusly think about a new life away from where you are now. Have you tried asking him to councilling? or tried comunicating with him? I know it is hard and you might get hit from him. Im finding this difficult myself, because i would really like to help you. But one thing is very important from this, always follow your gut feeling on what you really want - not what some one else will want, coz at the end of the day, its your life and happiness. Ihope you have found some of my advise useful, if not unuseful!! coz origanally i was searching for a web site that helps troubled people in relationships!! Please reply back, to give me your thoughts on what i have said and how you are getting along.

All my warmest wishes, Angela from England.

-- Anonymous, February 13, 2002


after reading your letter i would put together a support network. such as freiends,clergy,trusted family members. always remember you are never alone. god will always be there for you. noone can ever take god away from you or stop you from talking to him. i am in a a relationship where my wife abuses me emotionaly. thanks to a realy great counselor and pastor dave from living faith christian center here in torrington ct. i've been keeping it together. just remember all of us who are abused must stick together and communicate. god bless you, al wood callamcleaning@cs.com

-- Anonymous, March 26, 2002


i knew my ex-wife was cheating on me, i stayed, because of my children, but i lost them but not their love for me,

finally she and my ex-bestman did it for me, she had sued and won the divorce, so i walked, so must you also WALK , unless there is children involved, and if there is, and if you love them, do them the favour, MARCH OUT before u loose them!!!

so leaving is always not an alternative, but a MUST

sunny

-- Anonymous, October 30, 2002


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