consequences of student choices? : LUSENET : GLASSER Choice Theory & Reality Therapy : One Thread

I would like to know how some of you handle a situation when a student (12-14 yrs) chooses not to buy in to choice theory and by their actions,(disruption/safety) will accept nothing less than punishment.

-- kim hicks (, April 19, 2001



So much of Dr. Glasser's recent efforts have encouraged us as learners and practitioners to rely on, focus on, understand the importance of--relationships. My first questions would be surrounding what your relationships (if you are the primary manager--parent, teacher, whatever) with the young person is. The root of influence is relationships. If it is your hope to encourage (since we cannot make it happen) the student to 'buy in' to choice theory, I would say the place to begin is to build a strong and safe relationship of trust with the student. This can be difficult, especially if you are a teacher, who lacks time. However, if you have ever seen Dr. Glasser role play, you will know that he has almost instantateous relationship, mostly I believe, because he shows immense respect for his clients by the way he interacts in the counseling session.

Lastly, I would encourage you, if you must remove him/her because of safety issues to do it in such a way that he/she walks away from you feeling respected and regarded. This would mean you would really have to work toward not having him 'buy in' but having him respect you and feel safe with you.

Lil Hosman

-- Lil Hosman (, April 22, 2001.

I am a mnagement person. I have been asked to develop a programme for the students in a management college where the Director wishes the students to go out of the institution as better adjusted wholesome human beings. I wanto use the Choice the Glasser model of Choice Theory. What is the best way to begin?

-- Dinesh Kumar (, August 20, 2001.

.. if punishment is all he knows then that is what he is going to strive to achieve. That is his version of .. (hope I am getting this right) his "perceived world". Our role is to change his perceived world by being consistent with alternatives. He wants control in his life and he knows that if he pushed hard enough he will get you to give the punishment -- he's in control. How can you give him the sense of control without punishment?

You can remove a child from a situation in two ways: CONTROL/PUNISHMENT (Go sit over there. You are being disruptive) or you can GIVE CONTROL (we are pretty frustrated right now and we need to take some time to calm down. Where would you like to go for a few minutes and then we can handle this situation?) or something like that.. I'm not trained in choice theory so don't have the right wording ... Debbie

-- Debbie Roswell-P (, December 22, 2001.

student choices are some time immature as for less experience and lack of knowledge , so first let them make a firm basic set of beliefs and then further his objective of growing in the right direction.

-- Atul Agrawal (, October 18, 2002.

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