And the first one in this morning. Fun fun.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Answers

I know. I can not WAIT! And today is the bikini wax. Y'all must give me tips before I go.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Advil.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Which reminds me, I'm about due. But I'm poor. Maybe I'll just shave. But the razor burn. Hmm.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Advil how soon before?

40 new messages on diary-l. Lordy. They were mean.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

An hour. I took Aleve 45 minutes before, because Advil doesn't work for me.

Off to check diary-l.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Okay. If I get that white dress from j crew, what kind of shoes and bag??

I think I might get the clutch bag from Gap either in teh bird pattern or the stripes. I love that!

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

See, Aleve doesn't work for me. Take four Advil (I asked my doctor - it's okay) about thirty minutes before the wax. Advil's an anti- inflammatory, so it really, really reduces the pain during, and the redness afterwards.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

So much work to do this morning. I'll probably be spotty this morning.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Yeah, Aleve doesn't work for me either. I'll take 2 an hour before and 2 more half hour before?

Do you guys know anything about the "love languages" concept? Do you buy it?

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

That works.

Love language? What the hell is that? Is it some hippie soul mate thing?

I hate hippies.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

No. You and the hippies.

It's the theory that people express and feel love in different ways. The five are: actions affection quality time verbal gifts

Like, I show and feel love through gifts. I think that's my number one. But I'm also affectionate and verbal. Just hanging out with me doesn't show that you love me and vice versa. Like - I rarely spend quality time with my family. That's not how we express love. We buy each other things and hug and say "I love you."

I think you have more than one. But you have 1 or 2 that are stronger than others.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Oh. Huh. That's interesting.

I think I'd be actions, affection, verbal, quality time, gifts.

I think actions ant affection are similar, and I think that verbal falls into affection. Actually, quality time has to do with actions, I think. So those are all ewually ranked. Gifts aren't as important to me. I don't expect them, and when I give a gift to Chris, I want to give him something that I know he would love, but I express my love for him through my words and deeds. He's pretty action- oriented, too. He gives wonderful gifts, but that's just because he enjoys giving people he loves nice things. I think of his proposal, though, and it was all action/affection. Taking me to a wonderful place, even wearing the suit that I just adore - I think that's action. He's more action/affection than verbal, definitely.

Now that I think about it, we're both very action oriented. We're very considerate of each other - mutual respect is an attribute that's very important to our relationship. IE, we have these married friends who tell each other to "shut up." It shocks us.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Greenspun! acts of service
affection
gifts
quality time
verbal

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Where did you read about this? It's interesting.

And where is Mary Hannah Meehan?

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I'm very, very verbal as is Eric. And he's very acts too. Like doing things for me. Which is hard for me, as I'm used to being shown love through gifts. So it's an exercise for me to recognize it in other ways. And that's also how I show it. I like buying things for people. But if that's not how he recognizes love, what's the point?

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I think it's important how to learn to love in all kinds of ways. Love isn't all "Gift of the Magi" - it takes work, and a lot of that work is incarnated through actions - the things you do for each other that exhibit the mututal respect and admiration that you have for one another.

You could say that gifts are an easy, tangible way to show love. Not that you don't put a lot of energy and time and love into choosing a gift that someone will love, but I think that gifts are often easier than actions.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Gifts for me. Actions second, then words. Kevin is very words.

But I'm not sure I buy into it, entirely.

Our connection was down. It was horrible.

And I think they should rename diary-l dork-l.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Hannah, you must write something about VWs. Like, if you drive one, you are a girl, unless the car is black, in which case, you are a boy. Unless the car is a Cabrio. Not even gay men drive Cabrios. Gay men do, however, drive Jeep Wranglers, sexually confusing all the straight men who drive Jeep Wranglers.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Oh, of course. VWs are on my list. Girliest cars ever.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

And if you want to get even more specific, here are a few:

If you drive a Chevy Cavalier, you definitely do not live in an urban center.

If you drive a Cadillac and you are not at leat 60, you are confused.

If you drive a Honda Civic, you really are trying to hard, but in a sensible way.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

and you have to say something about 2 seater $50,000 sports cars: Porshe Boxters/BMW Z-3x etc. I stear very clear of people who drive those.

Love Languages is a book by Gary Chapman, who's a Christian writer. The book is God-centered, but not in an annoying way. I've only skimmed it anyway.

I think Oprah had a show on it too.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Feh. Why is it some days my direct deposit goes through the day before and some days it does not? Why?

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Does Chapman think that there's an ideal? Does he talk about compatability? I imagine that from a Christian stanpoint, the ideal in a marriage, at least, would be to serve God through your union.

It's interesting, I was talking to Julie about this last night - she needed advice for a speech she was writing for one of her classes where she had to rank several things - friends, family, god, education, money - and explain why she felt that way. I told her that mine were family, friends, and god, with education and money more or less equally ranked towards the bottom. I explained that family is the most important thing, and then friends. I would put community after that, if it were an option. I ranked God third because my interpretation of God is that he is someone who delights in service and actions, and that he isn't the kind of God who would want you to put your love for your family and humankind before his own needs, if that makes sense. Not that I think God is codependent; rather, I think that God would be the most pleased with humanity if we put the needs of others before our desire to please him - that be serving others, we *are* pleasing him on a level that runs deeper than worship.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Otherwise, you end up with holy wars, and I don't think that God is at all pleased by what's happening in Israel. Or Afghanistan.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

http://truth.nu/cwp/ll/

I haven't read the book, but I found the above site that describes the 5 languages pretty well.

I don't necessarily agree with that. Some might say you can't possibly truly serve others without loving God fully and without restriction first and foremost. That because you love him, you're the ultimate servent. That loving, and being loved by Him in return, you're shown how to love and care for your family and friends. I don't think it's a ranking thing. It's more like a circle.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I think that God would be the most pleased with humanity if we put the needs of others before our desire to please him - that be serving others, we *are* pleasing him on a level that runs deeper than worship.

Right, because by serving others we ARE pleasing him. So we are pleasing him first.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I agree that it's cyclical. I just don't have this image of a blazing God on top of a mountain warning us to worship him, or else. I think I'm more of a humanist (I think I have the philophy here - if I'm mistaking humanism for another philosophy here, apologies). I think that God gave us the ability to love and to forgive, and the rational intelligence to know what is right, and what is wrong. Nad through doing so, we truly glorify him.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Interesting. I think one of the reasons I've never really felt any pressure to be anything but agnostic is that a)if there is a God, who is all-knowing, he would understand how I can't find it in me to put my faith on one side or the other and b)I'd still get credit for being, on the most part, a good friend- for being there for my friends and supporting and loving them. I've always felt that's important, and figure any God would, too.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

That makes sense. That's kind of why I've never been of the opinion that any one religion is the True Religion. I don't think God cares about whether you think Mary is important, or whether or not you dance, or what you do on the Sabbath. I think that what's most important are the actions you take to reach your full potential as a human, and your actions towards others are an essential element of that journey through humanity.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

It's similar to why I have very little patience regarding the situation in Israel. I have little compassion for either side.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Okay. Compassion, yes, because it would suck to live in aplace that was consumed by hatred and war. It's understanding that I don't have, and I think that the glorification of God was left behind a while ago.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I think that what's most important are the actions you take to reach your full potential as a human, and your actions towards others are an essential element of that journey through humanity.

I don't know. I truly think of god like a father. My dad might be proud of me that I'm a good person and I volunteer and pay my taxes, but if I don't love him and thank him, he'd be crushed. I think God is the same way. He wants us to be good people, of course, but most importantly I think he just wants us to love him. It's that simple to me. And by loving him, we'll want to be good people. And around and around.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I have more compassion for the Palestinians right now, because with the settlement issue, it really is an issue of land, more than religion. Anthony Lewis had a really, really good column a while ago:

http://www.nytimes.com/2001/06/02/opinion/02ALEW.html

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Oh, it's totally a land issue. When I first really learned about Isreal, and did some heavier reading on why the situation is what it is, I leaned more on the side of the Palistineans. I still do, to a point, but I also think that the tit-for-tat bullshit has got to end. It's absurd.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

True. I just have no patience with Israel right now, especially when you consider the casualty ratio is something like 4 Palestinians for every one Israeli in the recent conflict. None at all. But anyway.

With the white dress? Hmm. I usually wear some of my blue sandals with my white linen dress.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I'd go with sandals in a lighter color. Maybe camel-colored leather thongs?

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

It's interesting to me, too, that most American (unorthodox) Jews really aren't as concerned with the conflict as you'd think they might be.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

True, true. No one pisses me off like the Zionists, though. I think I get some of my sympathies from Hadley, though, who is really into Islam. She actually wants to do legal work for the Palestinians. That's one of her dream jobs.

Oh, and my camel sandals. I wear those with the white dress sometimes too.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Well that just means I get to buy new sandals. Whee!

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I'd definitely buy a shoe that's daintier.

I bought these pink shoes to wear with my pink dress, but really, it's too much pink. Think I could get away with blach silk mules? Or, I have these pearly-white two-strap leather sandals that I bought to wear with a lavendar dress last spring - maybe those would work, since the bag I'll be wearing with the dress is pink and white silk. Hmm. Maybe I'll wear the black mules if I wear the dress in the fall, and carry a black bag.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

If the dress is a bright pink, black would be fine.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

It's bright pink.

But black shoes with a light bag?

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Oh yeah, bright pink and black are great. I love shoes. Shoes! I'll probably bring 4 pair to Vegas. But I'll try to cut it to 3.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Oh, I'm not feeling the need to restrict my shoe-bringing to Vegas one bit.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I'm bringing a ton of stuff. I plan on checking my bag (I HATE having to haul luggage through airports, and as I have two layovers, I refuse to struggle with a rolling overnight bag), so I'm going to bring plenty of stuff. Mainly hair and makeup stuff, but that's so we can play beauty parlour.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I just hate checking. I'm always afraid they'll lose it. Seriously. I always carryon. Which is why I have to be a good little packer.

H - did you ever tell taht reader what Stila stuff you want?

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Yep. All Over Shimmer #9, a lip shine, some eye glazes- I said I'd be happy w/just about anything.

I've got a garment bag that can hold quite a bit. We'll see.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I don't think I will ever carry on, again. It drives me crazy to have to haul the bag and haul it around the airport and lift it over my head. And it also drives me crazy when jags carry way too much shit on the plane, and I have to wait for their over-packed asses to get their crap from the overhead bins before I can get off the plane.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

True. But what if they lose it? I'm just too fearful. I usually check going home, though.

I LOVE all over shimmer. Did you ask for any of the body shimmer powder stuff? I got the BeneFit Kitten goes to Paris stuff when I was in Vegas in Jan. Also, y'all HAVE to get Cargo lip gloss. It's the best gloss ever.

Hannah - have you hinted for anything else from Falafel, or just the earrings?

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Cargo? I haven't tried that. I am fond of the Lush lip gloss, and the Lorac lip glosses. I love Lorac lip products in general, though.

I gave Kitten to Jane last Christmas. She loves it.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I've only had an airline lose a bag once. And they brought it to my door the next day. I'm not a panicker like that. If it's my small Land's End bag and it's not too full, I'll carry it on, otherwise, no way.

Nope. I have the AOS #1. Great stuff.

I can't wait to play beauty parlor.

And no, because Kevin has to save money this summer. He spent a ton on his sailing club membership, and if he has to get a new apt. on his own, he'll have to put down at least $3200. I'd feel bad asking for anything else.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I'm never going to lose my devotion to Nars lip gloss. You can't sway me.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Y'all don't understand my love for playing beauty parlor. I have a lot of makeup. A lot, y'all. I plan on bringing it all, along with all my pro-sized Bobbi Brown brushes. And my big-ass rollers, and my velcro rollers, and the straightening iron, and the waveing iron. I have this great LL Bean bag - it's half suitcase, half duffel - the entire duffel part will have beauty parlor stuff. Just you wait.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I want to play with your straightening iron, for sure.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I will master the wave iron, I swear. I used to end up looking like Beyonce, and that's not the look I want. I will make it look cool, though, oh yes.

I'm getting more highlights tonight. It's summer. That means bloooooooonde.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I have no idea what the wave iron is. I just hope it's not a crimping iron.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Oh, god no. You know how Beyonce has wavy hair sometimes? That's from the waving iron. There are ways to use it, though, where you don't end up looking like Beyonce.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Ah. Well, maybe I'll borrow that too. We'll see.

Why isn't Thursday Free Lunch here yet? I'm hungry.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I'm about to leave for lunch - I'm meeting my old roomate and my old neighbor at the Souper Jenny. I adore the Souper Jenny. I think I need to get cash, though.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

It came. I ate it quickly. Chicken quesadilla and chips w/chipotle sauce. Mmm.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Just got back from lunch as well.

i want to play with the wavey iron! Teri always makes my hair pretty. On Saturday night we will be the biggest girls in the WORLD and I can not wait.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

My ears hurt really bad. And my throat is scratchy. Crap.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

You cannot get sick! No, no. Take zinc.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I'm trying to use mind power.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Argh. It's only 1.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Did you have to remind me?

Right now my biggest concern is going to Old 97's with these ears. They just hurt.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Do they usually hurt when you're getting a head cold?

Don't smoke. I 'm not smoking till Vegas and then I'm quitting. No, I'm serious. I am. I will not be 25 and smoke. Even though I love it so much. How do you go see a live band in a little club you lvoe and drink Miller Lite and not smoke? How? How?

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Not usually. I mean, my throat is scratchy and my ears hurt. No congestion or anything.

I should quit smoking, too. But not until I'm 25.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Yes, you young sweet thing. You have a whole year.

Bitch.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I am going to have to resist my urge to tease you about being half of half of a century, aren't I?

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Yes. Yes you are.

Why must there be so many cute new things for Summer? I want to buy it aaaaaaaall.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I don't know.

Someone bought me Dick off my Amazon.com wishlist. I thought it was Hadley, but she says it wasn't. Yay.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I saw that. You shouldn't cheat and look!! I'm telepathically pimping my amazon list. Hopefully some random reader will feel so inclined. Hee.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I'm back. Lunch was good. Will Sara mind if our room is Beauty Parlour central? Because I don't know if Kevin or Eric would appreciatte it. And if they did, I wouldn't want to know.

Johanna, I swear by velcro rollers for your hair. They were made for each other. I bet it's not humid at all in Vegas,so our hair will do whatever we want it to (not that mine doesn't anyway - I love my hair). ; )

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

In the new Cosmo they show how to make these gorgeous Veronica Lake waves using pin curls. I'd like to try that.

Oh no, she won't mind. I just wish you and your suitcase of girly goodness was getting there sooner!

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

OH! Bring that article. I've been dying to do pin curls. I used to do them in high school (with rags, actually) but I forgot how. Is that how you can get the Kate Hudson look?

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

The Kate Hudson almost famous look? I want!

Although that might confirm Kevin's Eric suspicion, H.

I hate IM. I just inadvertently describe Nat and Matt's relationship as dysfunctional, and he asked "How so? Seriously, I want to know" and I typed "the way you pine after her and the way she uses you and the way you both know about your feelings but you won't move on and she won't cut you loose" before I could think. Oh well.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Oh, that so had to be said, though. What did he say??

What is Kevin's Eric suspicion?

Why must I work with crazy people?

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

well, he asked.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

And I can't keep my mouth shut, either.

Laconic RU: no, it's clearly recognized on both sides. i have feelings for her and i think she has feelings for me but we keep things at a nice status quo so nothing gets ruined. MaryHannahMeehan: I wouldn't count on that, MaryHannahMeehan: that. Laconic RU: count on what? MaryHannahMeehan: her having anything but platonic feelings for you. Laconic RU: i wish she'd have the guts to say shit. MaryHannahMeehan: I think she would, if she did. If not to you, to me or J. And she hasn't said anything but how she wishes you hadn't said anything in the first place. Laconic RU: quite frankly, she doesn't treat me like she has just platonic feelings. until she says otherwise, i have no idea what's going on in her head. eventually, i just give up and forget. pretty simple really. MaryHannahMeehan: Matt, she doesn't treat most of her male friends like she has just platonic feelings for them. MaryHannahMeehan: But she insists on as much to her female friends. Ben Hidalgo swears the same thing. That she can't possibly have just platonic feelings for him. But she does. Laconic RU: ahh well, i'm going to tell her fuck and log on from im. Laconic RU: "off" MaryHannahMeehan: It's the hard truth, and it sucks, but that's Nat. Laconic RU: she asked me if i was going to break up with her? MaryHannahMeehan: Matt, that's an expression. I ask her if she's going to break up with me over things. MaryHannahMeehan: or we use it as a joke. 'If you don't make it to the dive bar tonight, I'm breaking up with you.'

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Spaces would've been nice there.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Yeah, he brought the topic up. I want to shake Nat and tell her that she has to tell him in plain English she has nothing but platonic feelings for him. Cut out all this "I care for you so much" crap.

Kevin and Pat were joking about Eric wanting to get a massage. And being an actor. And how he must be gay.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Oh, clearly he's gay, then. Didn't he wear tights for "Cyrano"?

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

The best part was when Kevin says "And they don't even live in the same city...." and Pat (whose girlfriend lives in DC) said "Wait, maybe he's not."

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

And now Matt has said he doesn't want to go to the concert, "Fuck this" and signed off IM.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Falafel! Punk. No, he did not wear tights for Cyrano. Who's pat?

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Falafel's roommate.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Ah. He's silly.

Poor matt. But he needs to know. I think he MUST know, he's just in clear denial. Were the 3 of you going to the concert?

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

With Sean.

I think he needs to know, too. I emailed him that this is nothing new, and he knew this already, really.

Now I'm having it out with Nat over IM. She's all I don't understand! I told him I love him, in a way, but that all I can offer him is friendship! How could he interpret that to mean I have feelings for him?

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

did this all just happen?

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Yes. Stupid Matt. And I could throttle Nat, to be honest. This is such a pattern with her. She has male friend, male friend falls in love with her, she leads him on and jerks him around forever and ever.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Wait - who all was going to the show?

And saying "Fuck this" and signing off? I'm sorry, but since when is Matt a 14-year-old?

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Wait - she told him she "loved him in a way" and she doesn't get why he's confused?

Christ.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Since today, apparently. It's all very 7th grade.

It was supposed to be Matt and I. He suggested I ask Nat, and I did, and she said let me ask Sean. (She always invites Sean along, whether he's been invited or not). So it's the four of us.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Exactly. And she spends 2, 3, 4 nights a week drinking with just him, and brings him chicken soup when he's sick, and volunteered to pick him up from the dentist when he got his wisdom teeth pulled, etc, and doesn't see how on earth she is leading him on.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

And how has Sean not pummelled Nat yet? Or is he too self-absorbed to notice?

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Oh, far too self-absorbed. It would never, ever occur to Sean that he's not the center of Natalie's world. And he is, too, because even when she's with Matt, if Sean calls, she's a-runnin'.

I need new friends whose behavior doesn't make me want to pummel them.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Oh, and note to Pam: You've officially fallen off the Funny Wagon. And if you're trying to keep your relationship with the Poor Man's Steve Buscemi a secret, you might try cutting down on the mentions of being on the pill. And how people who read you are just glad they're not dating you.

But I will agree, it's sad that Stee is dating such a crazy, crazy bitch.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

God, her entry isn't funny. At all.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Gosh, it's already 4. I have a lot to do in the next 75 minutes.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Nat says she's going to call him at work. I need to know about tonight. I am sure I can get Kevin to go, though. Or if Nat and Sean bow out instead, we can sell their tickets- the last show was sold out.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I hope, for your sake, that it's just you and Kevin. I can't imagine that a night with Matt, Nat, and Sean would be anything near fun.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Nope. But Kevin doesn't want to go. Why does my boyfriend's musical taste have to suck?

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Wow was the entry hard to get through. So so sad. She's a mess.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

It just was not a good entry.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I wonder if she's setting things up to quit Squishy, though? In a way that isn't "I didn't want to do it any more" but "I just can't afford it"?

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Perhaps. And that little jab about how the forum is too big. Well, she's the one that let's them have 20 padding threads open at once.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Yeah, she's brought that upon herself. I'd feel bad for her a little, just for being sad and crazy, but she's such a whiner.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

She's crazy.

In other news, what color should I paint my toenails when I go get a pedicure? A really neutral color or like crazy pink? Or should I do the french pedicure with crazy colors?

I can not WAIT to shop.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I saw a girl at jury duty with zebra striped toenails that actually looked cool. Mine are red right now.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

My toenails are always red or dark pink. My fingernails are always sheer or neutral.

Dude. Go with pink or red nails. Why would you want neutral toenails in the summer?

I swaer by OPI I'm Not Really a Waitress, OPI Red (which is really a deep, deep pink), or OPI Malaga Wine (mainly during the winter). The OPI/Nicole Miller has a great pink called Marry Me Berry - I love that color. My toes will be that color for Vegas.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I might do red with the french pedicure. I've seen that and it looks okay. And red is THE color for summer, doncha know.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Red with white tips? How long are your toenails?

I used to only wear red on my toes (except in the winter, when I'd wear OPI Hollywood & Wine, which is similar to Chanel's Vamp, except Chanel nail polish gets clumpy after only six months). I began wearing pink this summer. I dig it.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Not neutral, but almost white/sand. I think that looks good when you have tan feet.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I never have tan feet or long toenails.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

You haven't seen the french pedicure? It's very cool. I've had it for 2 months now. The first time with normal pedicure colors, then the second time a sheer pink with white. But it's not bold enough.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I've seen the pink and white on people at the nail sweatshop, but I'm not crazy about it - it always seemed a little, um, ethnic. Maybe that's just in Atlanta, though.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I like it. Did you see Charlie's Angels? It's featured in that. On Lucy Lui actually, but whatever.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I think I remember it. I'm not sure. But it sounds pretty.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I don't think my toenails are long enough - I keep them shorter. I love having bold toes, though. Probably because my nails are always neutral.

I'm actually having my nails done at a real salon today, rather than the sweatshop. I've realized that if I'm going to bitch to myself when they file my nails with a sawing motion, rather than in the same direction, I'm going to have to fork over a little more cash.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I think I'm going to have to go to a sweatshop. My feet need some sort of pedicure.

I hardly ever do anything to my hands. I bite them too much.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I havent' had polish on my nails in forever. I prefer them bare.

You don't have to have long nails. The just put the line on the end of the nail. It's not like I have freakishly long toenails or something. Long toes, yes. Nails? Normal.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Huh.

You buff your nails, though, don't you?

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Nope. They're smooth and shiny enough for me.

After a very long time of having shitty nails they're actually nice. I understand it not.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

When I remember to.

I've always read that Jackie had ratty bitten nails, though, so I don't feel the need to change that badly.

Y'all, is it awful that I think this might work out for the best, Matt not going? Because then I can go over and pick up the tix from him and write a check. Since I can't get any cash until my direct deposit goes through tomorrow- I can get Nat and Sean to cover beer.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Well, see, it's good that Matt being silly is working out for you.

What did Nat end up saying, when all was said and done?

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

She called him at work, and he said to call him when he got home (at 5:30). I e-mailed him an apology for saying anything, and he wrote back that he'd talk to me when he got home. So we'll see.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

He didn't want to go because he didn't want to hang out with Nat and Sean?

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Basically, yes.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Oh well.

HAve y'all been raeding about that Soul Mate study that was just released? It's interesting. I don't know if I buy into that soul mate thing - I definitely don't think it's a realistic way to approach marriage - if you do, what will you think when there are moments - even months - when you're really frustrated with your spouse for whatever reason? They might be working too long, they may be busy with ailing parents - whatever. It's a part of life. It doesn't mean that you're not in a long-term successful relationship.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

http://www.abcnews.go.com/sections/us/DailyNews/soulmate010613.html

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

What soulmate thing?

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I think "soul mates" are a giant load of crap. Giant load of crap.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I totally agree. I also don't think that there's only one person out there for everyone. It's all - ALL - about the timing. Most of it, at least. Having a nice mamma helps, too, because if you have a nice mamma, chances are, you'll be nice, and if he has a nice mamma, chances are, so will he. Or something.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I think similar values and backgrounds make things much easier. But one soulmate? Crap. "The One"? Crap. You find someone and you love them and you make it work as best you can. It's all up to the two of you, not some giant force outside yourselves.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Exactly. It's hard work. It won't always be fun. People don't realize that, and they're dissappointed, and I wonder if it has a lot to do with our culture of instant gratification.

Anyway. I'm going to the beauty parlor. G'night.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

I agree. But in my mind I always thought about the guy I'd eventually marry. The one who would father my children etc. So in my mind, there is only "one." Does that make sense?

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

But do you really think there's only one guy on the planet who can be that guy?

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

No, but in my logic there only IS one guy because eventually only one guy will fill that slot. It makes sense in my head.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

Well, I'm off to the joyous wax. Yikes!

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001

That doesn't quite make sense to me. But I kind of see what you are saying. You have to look at it retroactively.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2001