I'm a step closer to my future. The paperwork is signed and sitting on the judges desk in the "30 day cool off" box for the state required seperation and the change of mind (NOT) should we choose.

-- Anonymous, January 15, 2002

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Dang, Jay; this is one of those times you don't know whether to say "Congratulations" or "I'm sorry". Maybe both, I guess.

I'm sorry that you've come to this point in your life, but I'm glad that you're getting on with your life in a sane and reasonable manner. I wish you the all the best. Hugs to you...

-- Anonymous, January 15, 2002

Polly,

I have no sad feelings because I realized the only "happy memories " I had were from our first four years together. Since they have been gone, the only differences are the bathroom is always available and there is no arguing in the house now. I still cook and tinker as I always did and stay in my study (Now out of choice of comfort rather than argument avoidance). And of course, I am sleeping sounder now.

-- Anonymous, January 15, 2002

I hated that "wait"time,kinda makes you feel stuck in the middle. In MD you had to be seperated for 1 yr. before it was final,alittle to long if you ask me.Well good luck with what ever you chose,but it sounds pretty well deceided.

-- Anonymous, January 16, 2002

I'm just happy she didn't leave like a tornado.

-- Anonymous, January 16, 2002

Man that is a speedy divorce!! Wow! Here its a year as well..I think separation for a year and then you can file but since I have no experience in it I'm not sure I have that correct. Jay, I am glad you are happy with the new way of life. You deserve comfort and joy in your own home rather than strife and discord. Now, what are your plans for celebratin'? You only have a month to plan you know!!

-- Anonymous, January 16, 2002

Bachelor party or road trip for me, the "girls" and Meow.

-- Anonymous, January 16, 2002

Jay,

You are doing such a fine job of coping with this change, but I know no matter the circumstances, divorce hurts. You are in my thoughts and I hope you can continue to be focused on your life ahead and have fun! You are a stronger person than I, my husband's gone for 7 weeks and already I'm a mess - oh yeah, did I mention I'm usually a mess!!!

Wishing you much happiness- Kim

p.s. In England it is 2 years!

-- Anonymous, January 16, 2002

2 years?? Ouch. they go to monasteries, Right?

-- Anonymous, January 16, 2002

No Jay they just have affairs. It seems much more open there, mind you if you needed to wait 2 years to get divorced perhaps that is why.

Both David and I are scientists, we'd love to hear more about what you are doing. We haven't been very good about applying science to surviving on our homestead! It's amazing we were so analytical in the lab and in the garden have to debate about what we planted where!!! Maybe you can be a good influence on us! Kim

-- Anonymous, January 16, 2002

Kim,

it was perfectly natural for me to carry my analytical perspective with me into the self sufficiency lifestyle. After 25 years in the field as a support technican and associate technical engineer in developmental engineering labs I knew I needed to set up a horticultural engineering log book and begin compiling empirical data and evaluating the results, if only to satisfy the questions I had.

-- Anonymous, January 16, 2002