Good afternoon,

My ex-husband and I married in a catholic church and are born catholic. We were married for a 1 1/2. In the beginning and during of our marriage we did not get along. Last year we filed for divorce and the divorce is now final. If we wanted to get an annulment, do we still qualify for this?

Thank you and God Bless, Jennifer

-- Jennifer (jrivera73@msn.com), March 06, 2002

Answers

Response to Annullment

If you could not get along why did you even bother to marry in the first place? Immature? Dishonesty? What? A marriage is for life and you should have been counciled well on what a marriage is all about. This is what is happening today. Too many people getting married for the wrong reasons. Communication skills and respect for each other is paramount in a marriage. Not Sex, night out with the boys or with the girls. It is total and fully equal companionship with your spouse, nothing more or nothing less. If you want to obtain an annulment then you need to first look at how you both failed, not who was at fault or who is to blame. It takes an intelligent reply to be able to get an annulment. It is not easy as an civil divorce and takes long hard looking at your and your spouse's failure to make marriage work.

The first thing you need to do is talk to your Priest and he can advise you on what you will need to do to start. This is a serious step and you will need to approach it with a cool head and a no judgemental attitude. May GOD be with You in your JOURNEY.

-- Fred Bishop (fcbishop@globaleyes.net), March 06, 2002.

Response to Annullment

Hi Jennifer

I am sorry to hear of your separation from your husband. Nullity is up to the decision of a tribunal, as I understand. You'd probably be best off to begin by speaking with your priest.

-- cathy in slovenia (crossways@addall.com), March 07, 2002.

Response to Annullment

I felt that I was pressured by family. "He is perfect for you, because he can support your financially" I married because I thought the marriage will change to better. For a husband to be there for his wife, unfortunately it was not like that. My husband always left me as he was living single. I thought marriage was to be together and to make a family and be a family. I am sorry to say, but I felt that the marriage was not there at all. Also, I had issues with my ex in-laws. They did not like me because I was not the type of girl that they like for their own son. In fact, they were only forced to attend our ceremony last minute. Till today, my ex-husband disown his parents. They have issues that needed to be fixed before our marriage and today. As time past,I realize that family memebers will not affect our marriage. It was that I felt I was being abandoned by my ex- husband. He was an emotionally & verbally reck towards me as well. As for being a wife, I will not tolerate this lifestyle. Marriage is one, and two people that lived separately during the marriage. Again, it did not feel like a marriage nor home.

I am going to see a priest soon, and I hope that there can be an arrangement to annull this marriage.

Thank you, Jennifer

-- Jennifer (jrivera73@msn.com), March 07, 2002.

Response to Annullment

Jennifer

I will Pray for you for a speedy and good annulment process. Keep it honest and truthful and seek whatever help the priest is able to offer. May Christ be your Guide in the future.

-- Fred Bishop (fcbishop@globaleyes.net), March 07, 2002.

Response to Annullment

Jennifer, I'm very sorry to hear of your situation. Issues concerning annulment seem to come up on this board quite frequently. Below is a url to a long winded discussion on the subject from last year. There is quite a number of messages, some will not be usefull, but some may be.

May God bless you and may you feel the love of Jesus for you during this time.

Annulment discussion

-Joe

-- Joe (namodi@hotmail.com), March 11, 2002.

Response to Annullment

I am wanting to know more about annullment. My husband although I love him very much has become physically violent and abusive. Verbally as well. I can't take it any more. We have only been married for 11 months and I owned the home prior. I would like to walk away as smoothly as possible. Also we were both under the influence when we married. Brenda

-- brenda collins (ucansing4me2@aol.com), April 15, 2003.

I DO KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH I WAS MARRIED BEFORE TO A MAN WHO ABUSED ME IN MANY WAYS IT TOOK ME ALOT TO GO ON WITH HELP FROM FRIENDS AND PEOPLE WHO WENT THROUGH IT ALSO. I'M RECENTLY MARRIED AGAIN EVEN THOUGH WE WENT THROUGH MARRIAGE COUNSLING WITH THE MIISTER OF OUR CHURCH AND DATED FOR 7YRS. THIS MAN I'M MARRIED TO IS VERY SELFISH AND YES THERE ARE MONEY PROBLEMS BUT I DON'T WANT TO BE HIS WIFE ANY MORE I WANT TO GET MY MARRIAGE ANNULED ALSO SO GOOD LUCK AND I WILL PRAY THAT YOUR'S GO THROUGH QUICKLY, AS ONE CAN SEE YOU MAY THINK YOU KNOW SOMEONE BUT DO WE?

-- michele (blueangel1000@netzero.net), August 10, 2003.