Do We Appreciate Each Other ??!!

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This morning my husband went up to the barn and did all the chores before going to work. I know this is not uncommon for most folks but usually I do the morning chores and let him get off to work with another few minutes sleep. Been battling a sore throat and had a sleepless night. With my job it is easier for me to do AM chores. Then in the evening we are there together.This works well for us. My chores were done for me before 5 AM. I know...some may say..what's the big deal here. But..how many of us really really appreciate all our husbands, wives or partners and children do for each other on our homesteads. I was just thinking of the little things. The hay is always down for me in the evening so I don't have to climb and lift it off the pile in the barn. Sometimes I think we just take each other for granted. I couldn't imagine not having him with me !! And this is after 36 years of marriage too !! I realize that there will be a day that the Lord will call one of us home before the other but for now I need to remind myself as to how very fortunate I am to have someone that is interested in the same things that I am. Hear too many stories about the other doesn't want to homestead etc. So....let's give our partners ( and our children) a pat on the back today. .. Sometimes we just take each other for granted and those years just pass by too quickly. Have a Great Day !!

-- Helena (windyacs@npacc.net), April 03, 2002

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I feel the same way! We have been married for 29years. He's the greatest. I know, there are times when I take him for granted but every time I do something will happen to bring me back to my senses!

I read this the other day and this is how I feel--"My friend, if you live to be one hundred, I hope I live to be one hundred minus a day"! That's how I feel about my husband!

-- Debbie T in N.C. (rdtyner@mindspring.com), April 03, 2002.


What a nice thing to read first thng in the morning, Helena! Thank you. My husband isn't on exactly the same page as me, but he sure tries hard to understand my need for self (God) reliance. When our doe had her kids and my milk stand (that he designed and built) didn't have a head stantion(sp?) he came home from work and stayed up late to build one for me. He is always building me what I want even though he is more of a computer guy than a carpenter, and he is getting good at it. The best thing, though, is that he would rather be with us then at work. I love that. Too many of my gal friends husbands would rather be gone. Oh yeah, we've been married almost 12 years and have 4 kids under 9. Thanks again, Helena. Cara

-- Cara Dailey (daileyd@agalis.net), April 03, 2002.

Very nice post. This is something that we shouls remind each other of more often. Couldn't have worded it better myself.

Thank You....and this is coming from a guy!

-- Mike ni PA (smfine@yahoo.com), April 03, 2002.


helena:

my husband doesn't particularly have interest in homesteading, though he is slowly warming up to it....but he does so much for me anyway, and graciously. he says if it makes me happy he is happy. i tell him i appreciate him frequently....thank him for going to work so i don't have to, thank him for letting me homeschool the kids, thank him for hauling hay, building hives and greenhouses, setting up a goat house, etc..... and he has no interest in animals!!!! I am so grateful for all he does. he, for his part, is grateful i want to stay home with the kids, grateful i want to grow our food, grateful i like to have a hot meal on the table for him when he gets home, etc. it is always nice to show your gratitude too!

-- marcee (thathope@mwt.net), April 03, 2002.


Thank you so much Helena..yes I do think we need to tell our spouses, kids, etc. how much they mean to us and how appreciative we are of them. My sweet husband and I will have been married nine years this next June. Last spring when we were starting our house...I got a really bad flare up of my fibro/cf. The man literally had to help me go from one place to the other..cooked alot of meals. He is a lineman and works outside no matter what kind of weather it is..I really appreciated his help and his understanding and on the same hand felt so very guilty because I was not taking as good of care of him. Now .. Praise God.. when I am up and going..I take great joy in getting up and making him his goodies to pack in his lunch. Everything is special when it comes from the heart..and it most definitely works both ways.

-- Sher (riverdobbers@webtv.net), April 03, 2002.


Thanks for the great post. I, too, have found the real meaning of "for better or for worse, in sickness and in health" this past year and really appreciate the man who walks this journey with me. He has stuck by me step by step, as I would him. Having been widowed at an early age, I never take my husband for granted, because like all of our gifts, they can be taken back at a moments notice. I am sure Helena, you are a blessing as well. It shows in your writing. jean

-- Jean in Ky. (dandrea @duo-county.com), April 03, 2002.

Thanks Helena for the reminder. I guess it's human nature to take things for granted. We've been "unmarried" for nine years now and every sunrise reminds us just how fortunate we are to have each other. We share many interests but just the fact that something interests my sweetie makes it interesting for me. As far as when one of us gets thrown on the old funeral pyre, I reckon we'll still be connected at some significant level that will make everything all right. Take care jz

-- jz (oz49us@yahoo.com), April 03, 2002.

Helena, Wow. What a wonderful thing to post! You sure are lucky to have such a great husband, mine is awesome too. And I try to remember all he does for us here. I try to do things back when it's needed. He sure appreciates my help here and there too. I've only been married 6 years, but been with him for ten...and still happy. -Jeanie

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-- Jeanie Whiting (rjwhiting@ncidata.com), April 03, 2002.


Thanks Helena for the wonderful post. And everyone else's wonderful comments, this is why I love to read this forum. My favorite saying is "Give thanks for everything in ALL things" The good and the bad!!! We'll celebrate 18 years soon and it seems to have gone to fast already. Our girls are growing up to fast also!! Time spent & appreciating our love ones is so precious...

-- Suzanne (weir@frontiernet.net), April 03, 2002.

I have come to a new appreciation for my spouse.....he is a Reservist who was deployed six months ago. Love and companionship aside, there are SO many things I am having to learn to struggle through alone. Disbudding baby goats was the latest...ugh! I hope I never forget what a great guy he is when he returns! ~Julie in OK~

-- Julie (okwilk213@juno.com), April 03, 2002.


I KNOW how incredibly lucky I am and try very hard to make sure my husband knows how much I appreciate everything he does for me. He cooks and does dishes (I HATE that stuff, BUT I do a lot of the fixer up stuff that he doesn't know how to do). He feeds the "herds" in the morning for me so I can sleep in a little longer and took care of EVERYTHING for nearly a month while I was recovering from surgery without a single complaint. He tolerates all my quirks and always makes sure I want for nothing. NO, he's not for sale! ;o)

-- lisa - mi (formyacds@aol.com), April 03, 2002.

Mine has been waking me up on cold mornings with fuzzy socks freshly "toasted" on the heater.

-- Soni (thomkilroy@hotmail.com), April 04, 2002.

Yes, well, Soni, I can appreciate that attitude. Anything to "get you going" (grins). Unfortunately, I haven't found a replacement for "she who walked out". Still, I appreciate my sons - possibly all the more because they aren't sleeping in my lounge room any longer.

-- Don Armstrong (darmst@yahoo.com.au), April 04, 2002.

awwwww

i am ready to run home and give my DH a big kiss!

-- Najia (najia274@yahoo.com), April 04, 2002.


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