Annulment Question

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I am Roman Catholic, and was married in a Catholic church to a man who was Methodist. We have been legally divorced for almost 6 years.

I am currently involved with a man who is also Catholic and we are expecting a child.

Someday we will marry. Do I need to get annullment in order to marry again in the Catholic church (even though my ex was Methodist)?

If so, how long does this take, is there an expense, and how do I go about it?

Also, can we have our child baptized even though we are not married? Kath

-- Kathy Nichols (novelgirl@mail.com), October 28, 2002

Answers

Response to Annullment Question

Kathy,

We would love to answer your questions point by point, but the truth of the matter is that it wont do you any good.

The best thing to do is to go and talk with you parish priest or pastor. They will guide you in all your answers.

In Christ.

-- Jake Huether (jake_huether@yahoo.com), October 28, 2002.


Response to Annullment Question

Kathy,

Jake's answer was correct in that you will need to see you parish priest. But just so you know it will not be a waste of time, here are some quick answers without knowing all of your details.

1. Yes, you will need a Decree of Nullity. 2. It takes anywhere from 6 months to 1 1/2 years. 3. A donation to cover the costs of the Church is desired, but not required if the person is financially unable. 4. I would hope that your priest would not baptize your baby until you decide to live your Catholic faith. This may sound harsh, but why baptize your child if they will not be raised in the faith? 5. Although you didn't ask, your priest may ask you to live chaste until the Church makes a decision on your first marriage. And then continue to do so until you are married in the Catholic Church.

God Bless Kathy and I hope you do decide to visit your priest.

-- Glenn (glenn@nospam.com), October 29, 2002.


Response to Annullment Question

Kathy - your situation will firstly produce a bastard child tsk tsk by those here who are of the mindset. Secondly you shall be relegated to a being a sceond class follower of Christ unless you donate sufficient funds which will of course overlook the " sins " of the union.

Reality check is God still loves the baby you and the father. Christ wll never abandon or enforce " rules " by which to live in His unconditional love.

Then again what do I know of these matters?

-- jean bouchard (jeanb@cwk.imag.net), October 30, 2002.


Response to Annullment Question

Jean, you are an angry, bitter man. You must be really hurting inside. That's sad.

Mateo.

-- (MattElFeo@netscape.net), October 30, 2002.


Response to Annullment Question

I second that, Mateo! Jean, you can be more helpful and less judgemental. Best Wishes, Kathy, to you and your family.

-- Deborah E. (bluesativa@hotmail.com), October 31, 2002.


Response to Annullment Question

Jean, with your connections in the psycho community, you should have no trouble getting yourself committed to an institution until you are cured. Go for it, buddy.

-- Man (With@White.Jacket), November 03, 2002.

Response to Annullment Question

What I find funny about this thread is that I believe Jean was being sarcastic in his first paragraph. Notice he said the baby would be judged "by those here who are of the mindset". Due to Jean's writing style (I don't think English is his first language), his point did not come across very well. Please notice his second paragraph which was very loving.

He was most likely complaining about my comment that the priest should NOT baptize the baby.

-- Glenn (glenn@nospam.com), November 04, 2002.


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