Suicide

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I just broke up with my girlfriend and so many things are not going so good for me in my life. I really feel helpless and I do not know what to do. Talking with her will not do me any good because first of all, she does not want to talk to me. I pray to god everyday and I even have gotten more religious since I've met her. We used to go to mass together and I was very happy. I just wish I knew what to do.

-- GQ (willie5@emelec.com), November 27, 2002

Answers

First off, don't kill yourself. If you REALLY feel like killing yourself, PLEASE drive down to your local emergency room and tell them that you not only want to kill yourself, but have a plan and the capability to do so. You WILL be helped.

I've had black times in my life, most normal people have. Sometimes we get into situations to where it seems like there's no way out, and things just aren't worth fighting anymore. This can be a NORMAL reaction to severe stress. It may be that you and your girlfriend were just not meant to be together, but that doesn't mean that tomorrow or the next day you won't meet the woman you WERE meant to be with. You'd never meet her if you ended things now.

Try talking with people you know, or your family, and PLEASE, if you really feel like killing yourself, don't. Go to the ER and get help. If you didn't feel like killing yourself when you were happy BEFORE, there's no reason you can't feel happy AGAIN. Sometimes you just can't see or believe that when depressed.

Frank

P.S. I'm not a depression counselor or psychiatrist, so don't take anything I say as gospel, other than the advice about going to the ER. That is something you should do if your situation seems truly dire.

-- Someone (ChimingIn@twocents.cam), November 27, 2002.


GQ, please remember if one plan doesn't work out for you in life, it means God has an even better, brighter and more beautiful plan for you. At this stage you don't know if the two of you just need a break and you may reconcile at some point in the future, or if there is another girl for you who will give you more lasting joy. God loves you so much. You are precious to Him and He has counted 'every hair on your head'. He is right there with you. He is comforting you, lifting you up and taking you down the best path in life, a path that is pre-selected for you and the most perfect road for you to walk on. Please talk to God about how you're feeling, ask the Holy Spirit to guide and enlighten you both during this time, and please ask for the gift of joy. You need joy to carry on. I am going to pray for you.

-- (maya@hartman.com), November 27, 2002.

Sorry to hear about your troubles. I know exactly how you feel, as my girlfriend who I loved very much, brokeup with me 2 months ago, and I went through 6 weeks of emotional hell! Believe me, I thought the pain would never end, and I suffered huge bouts of depression. I got about 4 hrs sleep a night, and I was just an emotional mess during the day. It's during these times when Satan will tempt us with suicide! Don't fall for it, as in the end you will just regret it, if you have to stand before God knowing that you threw you life away, when he gave you this incredible gift. Believe me, times will get better for you, even though you may have suffer so much. But don't dispair, offer your suffering to God for someone, and offer your girlfriend to God each day, asking God to bless her. Turn to prayer, as I prayed everyday 2 to 3 hrs for God to send my girlfriend back into my life, and I feel in someways God has answered my prayer, in the sense I am very happy today, even though that girl has not come back to me. I feel God has blessed my life, as I met another Catholic girl last week, and I hoping that things work out between us. I will pray that God, fixes things between you and your girlfriend, and if you are not meant to be together, God will still answer the prayer, as God gives us what is good for us. If you have breakdown in communication with this girl, try sending her a card, or flowers, if you want to get back to her. Pray that God softens her heart and takes you back. Apologize to her, and explain how you feel. Go to other Catholic forums on the net, and ask people to pray for you. Ask your friends to pray for you! Have a devotion to the Sacred Heart of Jesus! Jesus loves you so much, and he wants to help you!

-- Gordon (gvink@yahoo.com), November 27, 2002.

Dear GQ, It's so good you came to this site. I agree with the others before me, and plead with you to ride out this painful time, it will pass. Good things are in store for you. Sometimes it's in the deepest pain that we really experience God's love the most. He knows you and has a better plan then you can see now, trust Him. I will agree with the others to pray for you right now. Theresa

-- Theresa (Rodntee4Jesus@aol.com), November 27, 2002.

Dear Gordon, what a wonderful witness you are to a quick recovery and healing. Your faith is encouraging, thanks for sharing. love,Theresa

-- Theresa (Rodntee4Jesus@aol.com), November 27, 2002.


Gordon, your experience in my personal opinion counts more than any scripture quotation right now. You will be an inspiration to GQ. I don't know who GQ is , but I too will pray to God for him. I went through a related experience myslf with some relatives. They had lost a daughter. I had lost a son in the past. I told them about my own personal experience. They knew I understood their pain.

-- Elpidio gonzalez (egonzalez@srla.org), November 27, 2002.

I enjoyed reading your fine replies -- Frank, Maya, and Gordon!
I hope that GQ-willie will be greatly helped by them.

JFG

-- J. F. Gecik (jfgecik@hotmail.com), November 30, 2002.


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