I am a graduate student in the Family Therapy program at the University of Houston-Clear Lake. I am currently involved in research with two other graduate students at the university. Our subject is Men Battered By Women, and we are looking for men who would be willing to give narrative interviews on their experiences. We see this issue as one that does not get the attention it deserves, and we want to help bring it to the forefront of public consciousness.

I you are a man, 18 and older, who has experienced violence at any time from a woman (we are not doing research involving gay relationships at this time), PLEASE GET IN TOUCH WITH ME AT THE FOLLOWING EMAIL ADDRESS: lyndalou51@juno.com

Thank you!

-- Anonymous, February 10, 2003

Answers

We have access to some male victims of Domestic Violence who would be willing to speak with you,or even write to you without giving you their names.(we would be willing to verify to you that their stories are legit.)Please contact us either via our e-mail or using the Contact Us link on our Home Page at www.violenceinterventionprogram.net We hope that we can assist you with your research and are hopeful about the fact that the youth in this Country is beginning to bring awareness to the fact that Domestic Violence is not a gender issue but a human issue!It is also an issue that affects all of us and our communities at every level. Take care and be SAFE, Lee Newman Executive Director: Violence Intervention Program President: SAFE-New Hampshire Chapter

-- Anonymous, February 22, 2003

i have been accuse of being the aggressor in our tweny-two marriage. My ex husband was a controller and i stuffed my feeling until i would explode.things like not having money, him taking my paychecks, having our power turned off, me working two jobs all contirbuting factors. Acouple years before we separated we got in to a fight and he locked him self in a room . was kicking the door and he opened the door and maced me . our kids were involved. when this matter went to court he walked aweay from it. After we separated he continued to play head games and one night while trying to get visitation he was three hours late droppping off the children. I got mad and as he left went after him. hitting his car with the children in it from behind lost all rights to see kids for almost a year. he submittied story to Opera and got on her show. I now am leading a very normal life. I have custody of one child and working towoard getting the last one. self essteam has improved but it has taken alot of work \My ex still plays head games by trying to refuse me visitation and still tells everyone who will listen that he is the most vitemised man be female agressor in the state

-- Anonymous, March 22, 2003

So often domestic violence has been portrayed as violence against women. What you say may be true but that still doesn't mean you didn't batter him.

-- Anonymous, March 22, 2003

WE ARE STILL LOOKING FOR MEN WHO WOULD BE WILLING TO SHARE THEIR STORIES AND ANSWER QUESTIONS FOR OUR STUDY ON MEN BATTERED BY WOMEN. We have gotten some great responses which will be invaluable in our study, and we hope to hear from more of you. Your confidentiality and anonymity will be protected, NO REAL NAMES OR OTHER IDENTIFYING INFORMATION WILL BE MADE PUBLIC. I would be happy to email any interested parties the application for the study (which tells what it is all about), the consent form which must be read and signed, and the questionnaire we are using. We are not doing any face-to-face or phone interviews, everything is being conducted through email contact, which we believe is an additional safeguard for all participants.

We believe this is a very important study that could help to bring this subject to public awareness, and prove that domestic violence is not a gender issue but a human issue that must be addressed by agencies dealing with DV, law enforcement, the courts, and legislators. Solutions should be gender-neutral.

A HUGE THANK-YOU TO EVERYONE WHO HAS CONTACTED US, WHETHER YOU CHOSE TO PARTICIPATE IN THE STUDY OR NOT!

Diane

-- Anonymous, March 23, 2003

I was raised in a home, where my abusive grandmother caused my grandfather to go down in the cellar and behind the furnace he'd cry. My mother did not protect me from "grannies" abuse and my father was beside himself to put a stop to it. Both my mother and grandmother lied through their teeth at every chance they could to sway me one way or the other, I.E. hate the other. Throw in Vietnam and the mould was pretty well set. I have suffered from P.T.S.D.since I was 9 yrs old. My first relationship at age 21 was probably the only safe one I ever had. All the women since then were A.C.A.'s and I saw how abusive the women were to those men. I married into one for 18 yrs and the damage done to me has had me in consilling for over 10 yrs. The deepseated fear I have of women since childhood has been firmly cemented and I live alone now and feel safe, I can not discribe the loniness but at least I am safe from emotional torment that a woman with a broken soul can do to a man.

-- Anonymous, June 01, 2003