I am a 33 year old mother of five three of my kids dont live with me because of past relationships. Im married now and I love my hubsand but he is always telling me when I was single I always had money in my pocket for my son and me, know Im married I dont even send my son nothing. He is also accusing me all the time of having sex with this guy or this guy. I dont do nothing but sit at home with my two girls. He also says for me to save all the time and for what. My girls have nothing and they dont ask for nothing. I dont buy them nothing because Im scared to because if I do he would say what about my son. His son has everything (tommy,polio,those expensive jeans and shirts) He also wears $150 shoes my girls wear walmart or kmart shoes. He said his exwife cheated on him and he forgives her because of his son to make him happy(his son) He gets mad if Im not right by the phone to answer it and threatens that he is going to stop his paychecks. I told him tonight that I would like to try and reach my other three children because I havent spoken to them in 8 yrs and he said he only took the responsibilt of my two girls and me and noone else. Because if i do then he would send his son $20000 a month. maybe Im wrong but Im also hurt and very confussed and its hard for me to write everything done maybe Im not being abused. Am I?

-- Anonymous, May 28, 2003