I am a 29 year old woman , I was baptized catholic, my parents divorced and I was never confirmed. I was married twice in civil ceremonies when I was young and had no faith. Anyway, I have a daughter, my boyfriend is a practicing catholic, never married and we would like to be married in his Church. Is this possible?? Also, we have discussed him adopting my daughter and baptizing her Catholic. I am fine with her and any other children we may have being raised Catholic but I do not wish to be "Confirmed"

-- Nichole (nmurphy@jguestlaw.com), July 16, 2003

Answers

Thanks, but that truly does not tell me much. I am a woman of strong faith, I love my boyfriend very much and would not wish to harm him or his relationship with his family or church in any way. He, my daughter and I would be a wonderful family if it is possible.

-- Nichole (nmurphy@jguestlaw.com), July 16, 2003.

Sorry, I also forgot to mention that we currently live together, I have heard that this also poses a problem in regard to us getting married. Is this the case? What do we do???????

-- Nichole (nmurphy@jguestlaw.com), July 16, 2003.

Dear Nichole,

The only thing you mentioned that could present an obstacle to your marrying in the Church is your former marriages. An annulment proceding would be required to ascertain whether either of those marriages was/is an indissoluble, valid marriage. From your brief description, I would guess that those marriages might be declared null without too much difficulty, but I can't speak for the marriage trubunal. You should start the procedings as soon as possible. Speak to his priest, who can direct you to the place where you can fill out the necessary paperwork and get things underway.

-- Paul (PaulCyp@cox.net), July 16, 2003.

Well thank you Paul for your polite response. As to Jane, I do not have a bad habit going for my daughter to watch, she was a baby when I divorced because I was abused.........would it be better for her to have seen me murdered? I have not contemplated marriage again for years. This is the right man and the right time.

PS. to moderator, the reply to Jane, right after is not from me........how can someone post using my name?

-- Nichole (nmurphy@jguestlaw.com), July 16, 2003.

Dear Nichole,

I know the post in question was not from you. Nor was the subsequent message with my name on it actually from me. Both have now been deleted. I can't be online 24 hours a day. It is unfortunate but true that people can post under false names here, including the names of other forum contributors. It is also true, as stated in the Moderator's Note, that all such posts are promptly deleted when seen or when called to my attention, along with any other posts from the same individuals.

-- Paul (PaulCyp@cox.net), July 16, 2003.