CHASTITY AND AGE

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An odd queatsion.

I am not married. I also have not enjoyed caral knowledge of a woman, and intend not to till I am wedded. However, I am 26, and nearing my 27th year. My quandry then is this.

I always sought to wed a virgin also, but it is harder for women thanmen to retian this, especially in todats culture. Also, even among those women who do reserve themselves, nearing 30 equates oen to the likelyhood of alreayd beign married. So I ask then, shoudl I give up the queast for a chaste girl? Such woidlbe of pain, as htis is my dream, to possess a woman who equelly as I remained pure and so that we togather may share this alone one wiht another.

But in this age, and at my age, neagint 9 years thrice told, is this so hopeless an asperation? Shoudl I then simpley surrender the queast? I shoudl nto bare to settle for owman who had past loves aplenty, for such woudl greive me, having waited so, and so we woudl be unequel, and this woudl hender our relationship.

So, do I remain single? Seems as an option to be striking, and yet I ask, is their hope?

-- ZAROVE (ZAROFF3@JUNO.COM), December 10, 2003

Answers



-- (top@top.top), December 11, 2003.

I always sought to wed a virgin also, but it is harder for women thanmen to retian this, especially in todats culture.

Uh oh.

htis is my dream, to possess a woman

No wonder you're having problems.

Shoudl I then simpley surrender the queast?

Start from the beginning. Where have you been going in the hopes of meeting a future wife?

-- jake (j@k.e), December 11, 2003.


Marry someone you love.

-- Anti-bush (Comrade_bleh@hotmail.com), December 11, 2003.

I have the perfect answer for you, Zarove. Don't ask these questions of strangers at every crossroads. You are no different from other men who will marry when they find a good woman. You shouldn't try to find a PERFECT woman. Even if she were also a virgin, she will yet be like all of us, a sinner. In this life take what you can get and don't complain.

If you marry and discover your spouse isn't a virgin, that doesn't make you superior to her. It may well be she is the great soul, and you with your vanity are not.

God sees the heart, and He knows ALL our sins. You are a sinner despite having virginity. Do not be the judge over any good woman. Naturally we don't mean any kind. A GOOD woman.

-- eugene c. chavez (loschavez@pacbell.net), December 11, 2003.


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