What if a friend told you he was going to kill himself?

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Hello. I'm the moderator over on the Community Anime Reviews board if anyone goes there.

I...I have a friend who just contacted me yesterday saying he was going to kill himself. I've done everything I could to convince him not to but he's set on the idea...I...I don't know who to turn to now so I figured what the Hell, I'd give this a shot. I'm trying to keep it together but I can't even function. I can't let him do this. Am I being selfish because I don't want him to do it? But that's not the real question here.

I know this is just a forum and I'm not really "Asking Jesus" but please...If someone could tell me what I should do to stop this before it's too late (please E-Mail me!) I would be forever thankful.

Yours, SG2

-- Suupaa Gohan 2 (sg2mod@yahoo.com), December 16, 2004


Emergency bump! Please email Suupaa.

-- Andy S ("ask3332004@yahoo.com"), December 16, 2004.

Have you emailed him, Andy?


-- rod (elreyrod@yahoo.com), December 16, 2004.

Yes, with some quick info.

-- Andy S ("ask3332004@yahoo.com"), December 16, 2004.

I said to take it seriously and get help for the friend immediately. I don't know where Suupaa lives, but I provided a link to SAVE (suicide prevention info) http://www.save.org/prevention/someone_you_know.html

I mentioned suicide hot lines with experts who can help talk the friend out of suicide.

I also mentioned prayer. Recommend praying for Suupaa and Suupaa's friend.

You may want to email Suupaa too with some good advice rod.

-- Andy S ("ask3332004@yahoo.com"), December 16, 2004.

You can call me SG2.

Believe me I am taking it very seriously. I'm finding it hard to even focus on anything else. I've E-Mailed him several times but unfortunately I live in Massachussetts and he's all the way in California, so I cannot contact him in person. But I have been praying for him nonstop and told all my others friends to as well. This is hard enough to handle but especially so near to Christmas time...

It sounds like he's not going to do it right away so I'm hoping for more time, and a Christmas Miracle from the Lord...

Thank you, I will check out those websites as soon as I can. Unfortunately it will have to wait as I am in school right now and I have to get to class. I know you don't know him but please, if everyone could find it in their hearts to pray for him...

His name is Ian.

-- Suupaa Gohan 2 (sg2mod@yahoo.com), December 16, 2004.

Find out where he is and send help.

I had a friend who called me threatening to do the same thing. She told me where she was and then I called the police to ask for a hotline number for suicide prevention. They didn't even hesitate-- they wanted to know who my friend was and where she was, so I told them. Immediately they were there and they brought her to the hospital.

In truth, I hesitated to call the police because I was afraid my friend would think I betrayed her confidence. But in reality--she admits now that she wanted me to do exactly what I did.

Your friend is calling out for help. Of course, my friend's situation was desperate at that moment. She was in the process of overdosing. So I had no time to wait.

But I am pretty sure your friend wants you to do something, and I wouldn't wait.

Maybe your area has a Suicide Prevention Task Force that you could call?

-- (faith01@myway.com), December 16, 2004.

I'll check it out the instant I get home. Thank you all so much for your help. I just pray that something will change his mind, and prevent him from ever thinking it in the future as well. I'm a wreck now but I know in order to help him I'm gonna have to be strong and reach out to him. Thank you all, and please pray for him.

-- Suupaa Gohan 2 (sg2mod@yahoo.com), December 16, 2004.

prayer already said SG2. you're being a good friend.

great advice Andy and Faith.

-- Ian (ib@vertifgo.com), December 16, 2004.

SG2, I said a prayer for you and your friend. Thank you for doing this kind thing of reaching out. God will bless you for it.

-- Emily ("jesusfollower7@yahoo.com"), December 16, 2004.

Almighty God, Heavenly Father, preserve the life of Ian and shed your grace on him through those around him, for You are merciful to both believers and unbelievers. Loose him from the devil's snare and grant him healing by your love. Our hope is in You, Lord. Your will be done. Through Jesus Christ Your Beloved Son, Amen.

-- Max Darity (arrowtouch@yahoo.com), December 16, 2004.


I just got his e-mail and he said he won't do it. The last e-mail I sent moved him and he won't give up he said. He's still in a depression about everything but he promised me he's not going to do anything about it. I'm still gonna suggest he goes to get some help cuz ignoring problems like this is what got it so extreme in the first place but I am so happy now. Praise you Lord, Your miracles know no bounds!!!

Once again thanks to all of you for your help and prayer. I am eternally greatful. And if you ever need anything or want to chat head over to the Community Anime Reviews board anytime!!

Thank you all, and thank you Lord and Savior. Amen.

-- Suupaa Gohan 2 (sg2mod@yahoo.com), December 18, 2004.

Praise God! He truly is gracious.

Keep on your friend SG2. Ian has a long road to recovery ahead of him. Without help, the thoughts of suicide can come back. We need to keep praying for him. Make sure he gets the help he needs. Do you have any mutual friends that live closer to him?

-- Andy S ("ask3332004@yahoo.com"), December 18, 2004.

Thank you. I will not stop praying and I will continue to reassure him and such. Sadly no, I don't know anyone living near him. I have a LOT of relatives in California though, but I don't know if they live anywhere near him. I'll have to find out. But thank you all so much. He said he's feeling happy now and he's giving everything another chance.

So thank you all.

But most of all thank you God, Lord and Savior for Thy miracles are boundless and you give us all life and strength, especially in the Christmas Season.

-- Suupaa Gohan 2 (sg2mod@yahoo.com), December 19, 2004.


Consider looking into Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). This sometimes causes depression during especially the month of December when there is the least amount of sunlight. SAD is caused by lack of vitamin D, which comes from the sun.

At one time I had this issue, so I started taking calcium and vitamin D pills and that helped a lot. (Calcium helps your body retain the vitamin D). These can also be found in milk, and since I am allergic to dairy, I now get them in vitamin-fortified soymilk.

This may help your friend and is a common problem around this time of year. I went through suicidal thoughts and depression in December a few years ago and these vitamins were the main cure.

God bless and thanks for being a good friend. Continue to pray and consider offering this advice to Ian.

-- Emily ("jesusfollower7@yahoo.com"), December 19, 2004.

Almighty God, Heavenly Father, preserve the life of Ian and shed your grace on him through those around him, for You are merciful to both believers and unbelievers. Loose him from the devil's snare and grant him healing by your love. Our hope is in You, Lord. Your will be done

-- jerry (doofykorn@hotmail.com), December 22, 2004.

Well it's worse...

He was so much better. He was laughing and he was truly happy again. But then it got worse again. I think I'll respect his privacy by not saying what exactly happened, but I once again did everything but this morning he sent me this. Normally I wouldn't post the exact message out of respect for his privacy but I think it'll help identify how serious this is. I...I don't know what more I can do...

"I don't care anymore, I don't have to physically die to end it all, I can just go completely catatonic and just starve myself to death!

You don't think I have my own set of problems; it's always the poor homeless people or the poor unshoed people or the poor starving children in Africa and Iraq or whatever third-world chicken-shit country is currently in the dammed news. Well, you know what? They can all die and go to Hell for all I care, I don't have the fucking time to deal with their problems as well as mine, and I don't have time to listen to all that bullshit about how their problems are worse then mine. Every single day they have millons of people like you, dammed "good" people, feeling sorry for them. Nobody fucking feels sorry for me! Fucking nobody! Everyone just tells me to shut up and stop being a baby and all that shit and then, to add insult to injury, they tell me to start feeling sorry for them! Well I'm sick of it! It's almost as if nobody realizes that their pain hurts me too, as if nobody realizes that it's not my own problems I want to get away from, but from everything wrong on this whole fucking planet! I read the newspaper every single fucking day, watch the news every single fucking day and I cry at all the unfortunate children who have been killed/beaten/raped by people they thought loved them.

I hate it, I hate this whole dammed planet and if I could I would just destroy the whole dammed thing to end this terrible human reign of pain and terror.

It just isn't fair! It's not fair the the happy people get happier, the sad get sadder and the rich get ricer and the the poor, poorer. It's not fair that all the evil people live and the innocent ones die, the loved stay loved and the unloved are eternally hated. But, unfortunately, that's just the way this shithole world works, and I'm tired of living in a place that works like that and simply refuses to accept me for who and what I am.

I hate this world, and I don't want a part of it anymore.

Just leave me to die like everyone else. Nobody needs me."

I'm sorry for the profanity, but I just pasted the exact message here. I...I just don't know what else to do but pray...

-- Suupaa Gohan 2 (sg2mod@yahoo.com), December 31, 2004.

Oh, how heartbreaking. I can relate to his feelings. That is the way of the world precisely. But there is a kingdom not of this world; a world where the poor are loved, the destitute are esteemed and the lowly are exalted. There is a King, who came riding on donkey, poor, impoverished, who also detested the ways of the world. Your friend needs this King. He needs to find Jesus.

Pray for an opportunity to reach him; relate to him. He's right in so many ways. He just needs to see that there is hope. He must see that he has much to offer. He must see that this world is passing away with all of its lusts. He must realize that these things are temporary and there is a world of beauty, love and peace ahead for all those who put their trust in God.

I don't know where this fellow lives, but there are ministries EVERYWHERE that can help him. Have you tried to locate a ministry in his area?


Oh, Lord of Mercy, Lord of Grace, poor out your love and hope upon this poor lost soul. Find him, Lord, lift him out of the miry clay, pour your spirit down upon him. Reach Him, O Lord. Bring your people into his pathway. What utter despair he is, like you in the Garden of Gethsemane. Lord may the power of the cross, and power of the Holy Trinity break the bondages that hold him in prison. Crush the power of Satan over him. Set this prisoner free! Amen.


-- Gail (Rothfarms@socket.net), December 31, 2004.

St. Patrick's Breastplate prayer is POWERFUL for bringing down strongholds. St. Patrick was besieged on all sides by the powers of darkness. This is his prayer. Pray it over your friend, replacing the words "I" and "Me" with your friend's name.

I arise today Through a mighty strength, the invocation of the Trinity, Through the belief in the threeness, Through confession of the oneness Of the Creator of Creation.

I arise today Through the strength of Christ's birth with his baptism, Through the strength of his crucifixion with his burial, Through the strength of his resurrection with his ascension, Through the strength of his descent for the judgment of Doom.

I arise today Through the strength of the love of Cherubim, In obedience of angels, In the service of archangels, In hope of resurrection to meet with reward, In prayers of patriarchs, In predictions of prophets, In preaching of apostles, In faith of confessors, In innocence of holy virgins, In deeds of righteous men.

I arise today Through the strength of heaven: Light of sun, Radiance of moon, Splendor of fire, Speed of lightning, Swiftness of wind, Depth of sea, Stability of earth, Firmness of rock.

I arise today Through God's strength to pilot me: God's might to uphold me, God's wisdom to guide me, God's eye to look before me, God's ear to hear me, God's word to speak for me, God's hand to guard me, God's way to lie before me, God's shield to protect me, God's host to save me From snares of devils, From temptations of vices, From everyone who shall wish me ill, Afar and anear, Alone and in multitude.

I summon today all these powers between me and those evils, Against every cruel merciless power that may oppose my body and soul, Against incantations of false prophets, Against black laws of pagandom Against false laws of heretics, Against craft of idolatry, Against spells of witches and smiths and wizards, Against every knowledge that corrupts man's body and soul.

Christ to shield me today Against poison, against burning, Against drowning, against wounding, So that there may come to me abundance of reward. Christ with me, Christ before me, Christ behind me, Christ in me, Christ beneath me, Christ above me, Christ on my right, Christ on my left, Christ when I lie down, Christ when I sit down, Christ when I arise, Christ in the heart of every man who thinks of me, Christ in the mouth of everyone who speaks of me, Christ in every eye that sees me, Christ in every ear that hears me.

I arise today Through a mighty strength, the invocation of the Trinity, Through belief in the threeness, Through confession of the oneness, Of the Creator of Creation

Lord, we confess this prayer over the lost soul, invoking its power, all the powers of Trinity, against the dark power and seduction of suicide.

-- Gail (Rothfarms@socket.net), December 31, 2004.

Hi, I've read the letter. I must say that it would be safe to say that many of us have felt the same, to some degree, about this world we live in. At times, it does seem like there is no hope in this world and that things only get worse. But, I must say that we have choices in our lives to make things either better or worse. Maybe we can't change the entire world, but we can change our smaller individual worlds to the better. It is much easier to roll ourselves up and not cope with the struggles and inhumanities of this world. We could just give up. Or, we could fight it til our dying days. We could fight to make things better for others and ourselves.

Yes, this world is not fair and we can find it very cruel. This world is evil, but that doesn't mean that we should also become like the world. We should actually seperate ourselves from this world. That means that we should bring our thoughts, dreams, and deeds to a higher moral code. By doing these things, we can change our world. There is still hope and it can start in our tiny room. Put aside the world's problems because we don't have to make them ours. We need to take control of our problems if we need to first. We cannot give up on ourselves.

We can read about the evils and pains of this world, but until we are face to face with them, the reality of it all has not been experienced. We each need to go out and touch the hand of people who are worse off then us. Then, we will truly understand our place in this world.


-- rod (elreyrod@yahoo.com), December 31, 2004.


I'll keep praying, but it sounds like someone needs to talk to your friend face to face before he tries anything. Sounds like he needs help immediately. If there is no one you know there to help, call a suicide hot line and ask their advice. They may have a team who can physically get to your friend. Otherwise, call the police. I'm no professional, but it sounds like he's begging for immediate help.

Do this even though he may sound happier. Some people seem calmest just before they commit suicide.

-- Andy S ("ask3332004@yahoo.com"), December 31, 2004.

Yes, Andy. It sounds like a last ditch effort for help.

It isn't our friend's fault that the world is in such a bad situation. The world will just have to figure things out on their own. Our friend and all of us have hope and the freedom to enjoy life. The world is not resposible for our joy of life.


-- rod (elreyrod@yahoo.com), December 31, 2004.

Would you guys, Andy and Rod, since you are here right now, as I am, take a moment and pray that St. Patrick's prayer over him RIGHT NOW!

Unity is a great thing!

-- Gail (Rothfarms@socket.net), December 31, 2004.


-- Andy S ("ask3332004@yahoo.com"), December 31, 2004.

"One can put a 1,000 to flight, Two can put 10,000 to flight." Lord here our Prayer! Crush the enemy!

-- Gail (Rothfarms@socket.net), December 31, 2004.



-- rod (elreyrod@yahoo.com), December 31, 2004.

Hey, I've read through part of it, but i made this answer when i was reading the part about you pasting the message here although there was profanity. You know, your friend is right to say about the good people dying early and the bad people living to a ripe old age. And he was right about the part of the happy people getting happier etc. But this is what I think : God lets good people die earlier cause they have done too many good things, and its time to let them go to heaven and enjoy life. God lets bad people live longer, only to suffer pain in this forsaken world. It does not matter if ur happy and rich, or sad and poor. With God in your heart, all this things no longer matter. You come into this world, with nothing on you, except the love of our Heavenly Father. So when you go, you shall have nothing on you except the love of your Heavenly Father. Who the heck cares about gold and happiness on Earth when you will lose them all when you go to Heaven? Might as well be poor and sad when you are on earth and become rich and happy in heaven. I sincerely pray for you and your friend. God bless, John.

-- Johnathan See (aslan_gem@hotmail.com), January 22, 2005.

Oh and by the way, can someone e-mail me once theres changes in the situation? I really want to know more and help God to preserve one more life so as to help other's in need =) Oh and btw, I did the St. Patrick's prayer in addition to my own =) Like what Gail said, Unity is strength!

-- Johnathan See (aslan_gem@hotmail.com), January 22, 2005.

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