the RCC condemns sex and sees it as evil if it is outside of marriage,even if you really love each other

does the RCC also condemn marriage if it is out of different reasons than love?

-- sdqa (sdqa@sdqa.com), January 13, 2005

Answers

Hello sdqa!

1. The Catholic Church believes sex deserves the *protection* of holy Marriage. We don't believe sex is evil at all! Rather, it is too good, too holy and too special to be wasted on less than the very best. I mean, if you wait until Christmas morning to open a present, it isn't because you "condemn" presents and see them as evil, right?

2. "Love" means wishing the very best for the other and wanting to bless, encourage, nourish and care for them in all situations. If a marriage doesn't have that kind of love, it is just an empty shell of what it *could* be, that is, it doesn't live up to its potential.

have a blessed day!

-- Michael (edwardsronning@prodigy.net), January 13, 2005.

hi michael

very nice explanation

...only i don't believe in marriage,also many people don't interpret sex so sacred as you seem to do

off course that marriage is an empty shell without love but does the church also condemn this?

-- sdqa (sdqa@sdqa.com), January 13, 2005.

Dear sdqa,

The Church doesn't sit around all day and look for things to condemn. Why not live life at its most caring and compassionate, and rejoice in that?

Yes, Catholics and other Christians do see sex as being sacred, because we see ourselves as sacred and our bodies as sacred--that is, members of the Body of Christ. We believe God the Holy Spirit lives in us, which is pretty awesome.

Cordially,

-- Michael (edwardsronning@prodigy.net), January 13, 2005.

but if the chruch condemns sex outside of marriage,then i also think it should be very logical to condemn sex outside of love

-- sdqa (sdqa@sdqa.com), January 13, 2005.

Actually, sex is primarily intended as the consummation of marriage, the act that makes two people into one flesh, which is why it's reserved for marriage. Sex performs a very powerful spiritual bond between the 2 parties involved - it unites them into 1 person, which is why it's reserved for married couples.

That's why sex has an impact on people, especially women who are more spiritually sensitive. Sex creates a link between the 2 people that just can't be ignored.

One of the primary reasons for failed marriages today is because the couple being married have had sex with other partners in their past and have spiritual bonds to those people. They aren't able to properly bond together as one flesh because they are also bound to others at the same time, thus the intimacy intended for the married couple is impossible to achieve.

David

-- non-Catholic Christian (no@spam.com), January 13, 2005.

That's correct. Sexual union which is not an expression of mutual love and commitment within the bonds of marriage is illicit.

-- Paul M. (PaulCyp@cox.net), January 13, 2005.

i think it still depends how that you look on sex and how much you loved the person that you had sex with...

i really doubt that you are bound to someone if you had sex with that person just for fun

i also think you can be very bound to someone without having a sexual relationship...

-- sdqa (sdqa@sdqa.com), January 13, 2005.

Well, we're not telling you something based on what we think. Our opinion is meaningless. We're telling you what God has revealed in scripture and through His Church, so it's Truth, not opinion.

One day, we will all face Him in judgement and the basis of His judgement is what He thinks, not what we think. That's one of the reasons I pursued God in college. I was considering leaving the Church trusting in God's mercy to at least get into Heaven, then I was worried about judgement and wanted to know what the basis of God's judgement would be, so I started reading scriptures and was I ever shocked. I've spent 20 some years now turning my life around to better align it with God's ways so that I can share in the promised eternal life with God. God's is the opinion I care about.

David

-- non-Catholic Christian (no@spam.com), January 13, 2005.

SQ , you say you dont bond if you have sex just for fun. why is it then that Bilogical and phycological facts speak asint you? sex creates, automaticllay, chemical shifts int eh boidt, and a hromonal exchange, that will be Bio-Psycologiclaly felt by both partoes.

Sex DORS bond towo peopel,r egardless of hwo they think of sex or there motives for sex. Just liek if I take cocaine and think it wont effect me.its syill goign to chemiclaly unduce changes in my sttae of mind.

The biological factor alone proves a boind occures with sex, thta is irreversable.

And its NOT ased on what you THINK or your motives, tid base don biology.

-- ZAROVE (ZAROFF3@JUNO.COM), January 13, 2005.

sdqa, it's not that sexual intercourse is evil. Sexual intercourse is very good. The ABUSE of sexual intercourse by using it outside of marriage is the evil. Just like a hammer is a good tool; it's designed to be used for building houses and furniture and other useful things. But if I ABUSE the hammer by hitting someone with it, it's not the hammer that's evil, it's my abuse of it which is evil.

And yes if I married someone I did not love (for example if I married a rich dying woman so that I could get her money) that would be a sin. But note that to "love" someone means to make the DECISION to do the best you can to do what is truly good for that person. It doesn't necessarily mean that you are infatuated or "head over heels in love" with that person. It certainly doesn't mean that you simply have a strong desire to have sexual intercourse with that person.

-- Steve (55555@aol.com), January 13, 2005.

I believe on the man's part love is required to be married, otherwise he would prolly look elsewhere. For a women, love comes naturally, expecially when sex is involed. If you look to the book of Dueterotomy, it is full of tediuos laws that people nowadays find irrelevent. Many of these laws are for health reasons. God basically gave the Jews rules to live by to maintain thier health. Sex with multiple partners causes the spread of STDs. This has been true for all time. AIDS may have just started but clamidia and other stds have been around for a very long time.

For a man to have an affair on a woman is the most hurtful thing he could do. To me that in itself is a sin,(just to intentionally hurt someone). Lets just say women who have affairs basicall just have "penis envy".

And if you think about it marriage is the best thing for people, men ans women. Woman and man balance eachother out. Women think with thier emotions, which is necessary at times, but men think with logic which is also necessary. Though many people now a days think that women should not submit to thier husband authority...i believe thier wrong. All men need some type of authority, and all women need to be told what to do on occation. I'm not saying marriage is not equality but they are equal in not the same way. Marriage is very important, thats not even to say anything about sex

-- kat (riesoracle@hotmail.com), January 14, 2005.